To grieve the loss of someone so young is no small thing.

I hope having a like minded community will help in some small way.

Acceptance: Noun: 1 the action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered.
2.
the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group.

I don't think we have to be "ok" with this kind of loss, ever. We might change how we deal with it over time, but either way it becomes part of the fabric of our being.

Condolences on your loss.

Oct. 26th was 5 years since I lost my daughter to suicide at 20 y.o. You never lose the grief but it eases and it changes. It almost made me go to religion in order to believe she's in a better place. But I couldn't lie to myself. She's gone. Best of luck to you & RIP to your son.

You are being Waaay too hard on yourself, 21 weeks is Not long! Give yourself permission to feel poorly, and stop counting the time...everybody's is different. Know that he will always be a part of you, and never be forgotten. Talk about good times you had with others that you trust, but try to maintain a balance so that you are not fixated. This was a terrible thing to happen to you!

21 weeks is nothing in the face of a loss that huge. Give yourself time.

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish I had words adequate to comfort you.

My condolences. Sometimes all you can do is sit with the pain. There is no time frame for acceptance. Slow yourself time to grieve.

Do whatever you need to do in order to come to terms with this tragedy in your life. It is not the natural order of things to survive the death of your child, and it makes it harder to accept. We all have our own coping mechanisms in dealing with our grief and nobody here will judge you for any belief that your son’s spirit is still around and supporting his loved ones. I wish you the very best at this time and hope you can focus on the wonderful times you had with him for his 35 years with you, and this may help to ease the pain of your loss.

I can barely imagine the pain you are going through. Life can be terribly cruel sometimes. There really is nothing that can be said to ease the pain. Sending you a lot of hugs from here. I am glad you are part of the community and I hope you find at least some solace in the connections you have with others.

I'm crying hard. I'm sorry he's gone. Talk to him.