I say what I mean, and if I ask a question I want the most honest (tactful) answer. If you answer with 'no, your fat makes you look fat', that's when trouble begins.
@maturin1919 It doesn't emphasize your assets. The clothes make x look fat. Or it isn't flattering. Honest doesn't have to mean blatantly rude.
@maturin1919 Would you prefer women point out when a man has a small penis and announce that it is a small ineffectual mass, or would you prefer a modicum of tact and us say something akin to, size doesn't matter, skill does? Manners and tact manner, it isn't dishonest, it is honest without being deliberately hurtful.