I think the word "forgiveness" gets thrown around or misunderstood. It's not about saying what the other person did was okay or letting them off the hook -- it's about letting go of the anger so that it doesn't run your life. That doesn't mean you forget or give them a pass.

I understand the different perspectives and agree with many. Maybe it's the word itself I have a problem with. Forgiveness has to many religious overtones for me. Beg Gods forgiveness or burn in hell..

I don't forgive or forget. I behave well and try to understand and let things be, but they have an effect on any possible relationship.