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Tis the season! Giving to those less fortunate than you. Who does it help more?

IAJO163 8 Dec 15
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I give blood year round. And I have given some to a couple charities I admire. Shout out to Saving Southern Kitties, a no kill cat shelter(s) in North and South Carolina.

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It depends on what you give.

Hashtag - #Herpiessuck

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I have given when I had almost nothing to give. If done for the right reasons, both benefit.

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Good question and my take on this always gets me into a lot of hot water (lets see what comes from this comment).

I strongly feel most people give out of pity, guilt or simply because cognitive dissonance pushes them. I have done that too many times and sometimes, especially with little things, drop my guard and give without really looking into who or what I am giving to (I give on an annual basis to over 25 groups so it is not about being cheap. I also have 3 groups - and not my daughter - in my estate plan. My late partner also had her portion of the estate willed to 3 orgs. and told her kids about her decision. They honored and respected their mother and were fine with it).

At one time, because I was at a low point in my life I signed on to an Int'l. charity organization and gave for 12 years. I then found I was actually contributing to a group that actually fostered the very thing they said they were against. I woke up and started looking at what I gave to.

I try to use my sense of reason before giving. The adage about giving versus teaching one to fish holds very true. We should only give if thereby doing so will solve a problem. We should not give simply to sustain an ongoing problem! I have done research and come up with a long treatise on the environmental and morality of charity. I have found another adage to be true: "The road to hell is paved with good intentions"

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How about we give to those less fortunate all year long, without judgment, condescension, or expectations?

Even if it's a $200 a day non tax paying job?

@IAJO163 I don't know what you're talking about. I was just stating that while it's nice to be generous during the holiday season, it shouldn't only be a thing from Nov 1st - Dec 25th (that's when all the businesses here started pushing out the commercial Christmas crap).

@jondspen I stand on a bus stop and see the same people every day panhandling and want to place a sign a block ahead of them telling people not to give them anything. Why give if there's no progress?

@IAJO163 Well...if you are giving to someone and expecting something in return for your 'generosity', it's not really giving, it's buying. I can understand becoming callous and jaded to people who maybe are just lazy, or will spend it on drugs/alcohol. But only giving to people who 'deserve' it typically turns into not giving at all b.c people who 'deserve' it usually don't need it. Maybe some of those people have had the shit kicked out of them so many times by life, they have just given up and don't care if they really do live or die. If you don't want to give them money, give them gloves, socks, food - or don't give them anything. You can support local soup kitchens or non-profits that you trust. Hell...you can just give blood!

@jondspen I give them a feeling of well being and self respect. Something that actually makes THEM feel better. Not me. I was once in those shoes.

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