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UPS Crush: So I've been crushing on the UPS guy that delivers to my work for longer than I'd like to admit. It literally took me months to get my act together to see if he was wearing a wedding ring because I get so flustered when he comes in. He only delivers about once a week, sometimes less so that's partly why it's taken me so long to work up the courage to even say anything other than hi to him. Anyways, I psyched myself up that TODAY WAS THE DAY! We've been getting more packages because the company owners use the office for their personal deliveries and it's holiday season. I have my name and cell written down on the back of a business card and I'm ready to go. I even wore a fricking dress!

Guess what? He delivered.....while my boss was in my office so I didn't get a chance to say anything to him! Grrrrrrrr! So now I wait again. It's SO out of my comfort zone to ask someone out, especially since I'll still be seeing him if he says no. I just want to get it over with but it looks like I'll have to wait longer.

By Marcie1974
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Ask him. The embarrassment of getting the wrong answer will be shorter-lived than the regret of never asking.

chalupacabre Level 8 Dec 20, 2018
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Oooo, I have a thing for UPS delivery guys.

I hope he's single and you get a date!
Go, Marcie!

Donotbelieve Level 8 Dec 19, 2018
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I would be very flattered if you came up and wanted to talk to me and gave me your card with your number on it. If you seemed nervous I would understand and probably think it was kind of cute. Most people would be understanding about your nervousness, and if he's not, he's probably not the kind of guy you want to spend much time with anyway. His loss if he's that way.

JohnCB Level 3 Dec 22, 2018
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Thank you! I’m not very confident and really not assertive. At this point I don’t even care what his response is, I just want to prove to myself I can do it!

@Marcie1974 Go for it, let us know how it goes! I know how you feel, I've frozen with the worry that a woman will say no. I would say yes you, You're beautiful and have a good sense of humor.

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Proud of you! You’ll give to him next time. Good luck.

MissKathleen Level 8 Dec 19, 2018
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"Well thank you, but I can't form personal relationships with UPS customers." smile002.gif

CoastRiderBill Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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I can understand how nervous you are about asking him out ... and then this! Grrrrrrrr'ing with you! I hope you get the opportunity again soon!

germangirl90439 Level 8 Dec 19, 2018
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Rare for a girl to ask a guy out. I like it. YOLO. Good luck!

MrChange Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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Rare??

Yeah, it’s only taken 9 months and I haven’t actually done it yet lol

Not at all, you poor poor man.
This woman usually asks first.

@Donotbelieve wow. Well I guess that says a lot about my life. Lol. Sorry for the ignorant comment

@MrChange No need to apologize.
Simply ammend your view to fit the facts and try to meet more assertive women! It sounds like you would appreciate them.

@Donotbelieve they are actually my type. Where to find them. I have no idea

@MrChange There's one in PA. Ha!
There are quite a few on this site.
Chin up. You'll find a suitably aggressive and intelligent woman.

@Donotbelieve also I love assertive women because they know what they want. No guessing games. Lol

@MrChange assertive people are great, as long as they aren't assholes or completely stupid.

@Donotbelieve agreed

@MrChange I totally understand. I've also found it to be rare for women to ask guys out.

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@Donotbelieve thanks for the encouragement. I hear girls from up north are more aggressive. Too bad I don't like the cold.

@bingst thanks. Glad I'm not the only one.

@MrChange Women.
Women from up north.

@Donotbelieve thanks for the correction. Lol

@MrChange Thanks for not being mad that you got corrected.

Maybe it's the cold that makes us aggressive?
Hmmm...

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@Donotbelieve I'll never be mad when I'm wrong. Lol. I think it's more of the culture. Many women in the south are submissive because of religious values which are less prevalent in the north. Just my opinion. If Florida was like the northern states or Miami. I would meet like minded people much faster.

@MrChange I can only speak for myself, but I was raised in a very strict religious, pentecostal family.

It took years, but I shook it.

I was only kidding about the cold being the cause of our directness.

@Donotbelieve I know you were kidding. I was stationed in Alaska for 3 years. Well I wanted to do was play video games and have sex. Lol. Its hard to shake religion off. Many font understand what it takes to break free. I was Baptist

@Marcie1974 You're overdue! The 9 months of anticipation only make it more difficult as time stretches on... (i.e., makes it more difficult thru time..)
Approach him - ask him out for a cup of coffee sometime. See what he says. Your smile should be a good opener. If he smiles at you... you can then say... "... are you single?"
Good luck! It's time!

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That’s so cute! Persevere! Might come to nothing but could be the love of your life. Hope it works out. And please tell us.

OwlInASack Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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I’ll be proud of myself regardless of the outcome!

@Marcie1974 There you go!

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I'm 2 generations older than my UPS guy but he is so cute and sweet I just want to adopt him!

txtreehugger Level 5 Dec 25, 2018
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This is clearly a letter that should have been sent to "Dear Abby" or "Ann Landers." If all my problems fell into this level of challenge or difficulty, my life would indeed be nothing more than a stroll through the park.

EduardoVallejo Level 3 Dec 22, 2018
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Ouch, thanks for that constructive comment

Really?! That was unnecessary.

@Marcie1974
So! @Marcie1974 ! What's happened!!! We need a status update here!
And ignore @EduardoVallejo. As an Elder here, I classify him as an arrogant cad.
We're cheering for you!!!!

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@bigpawbullets today was my first day back but no UPS deliveries....fingers crossed for tomorrow since I have Friday off

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Did you try the bend and snap? 🤣 good luck!

Rational8Human Level 4 Dec 21, 2018
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I had to 'google' that.
MANY decades ago, following a divorce which was pretty traumatic. A very attractive single woman in our office did that in front of me. Even at 35 years old, I almost had a heart attack.

Thank you for this reference...all I could think when I first started reading this was of "Legally Blonde." I totally forgot about the bend and snap.

Marcie, if you try the bend and snap, don't break his nose like in the movie. I hope he comes again soon and keep us updated!

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Marcie: get a copy of the movie, "Legally Blond" and watch (or re-watch) it. There is a scene where the describe a technique of "Bend and Snap" that is suppose to work 85% of the time. smile002.gif Seriously though, good luck. I'm sure he will be flattered by your approach if he's unavailable and there's a good chance he'll respond positively to you.

TheAstroChuck Level 8 Dec 20, 2018
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My only advice is not to wait too long. Seize your moment!

purcascade Level 5 Dec 20, 2018
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If I were you, I wouldn't do it. Just kidding! 😁😁 Go for it.

SeekersNeverFind Level 4 Dec 20, 2018
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Do it. No regrets whatever happens, but I truly hope it goes your way.

ghettophilosopher Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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How exciting! Don't give up. Good luck!

GinaKay Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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There's some hot UPS guys roaming around here too.
Give it a go when you get the chance - what's the worst that can happen ? Guys go through this sort of possible rejection all the time. DO it.

evergreen Level 8 Dec 19, 2018
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I’m going to turn 50 shades of red with embarrassment. I’m just not assertive or confident with stuff like this. That’s why I was so mad my boss was in my office today, I’d been giving myself a pep talk all morning and I was ready!

@Marcie1974 You see ? If that's the worst, you'll survive just fine. And if you're successful - you'll be all happy you did it !

@Marcie1974 I'm not assertive or confident with this stuff either. I hope you can do this soon, and get it over with. I've been there. Good luck!

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It's probably those shorts that UPS guys wear in the summer that's got you turned on..., Right? smile009.gif

[Edit: Check #17 in this list of 18 secrets of UPS drivers... [mentalfloss.com] ]

John_Tyrrell Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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And going up and down those steps all day is better than a Stairmaster for the gluteus maximus

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Hope he is nice! Good luck!

ohnoudun Level 5 Dec 19, 2018
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You got this! 😉

Lillyfield41 Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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Good luck!

Unclehotrod Level 4 Dec 25, 2018
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Go for it!!! smile001.gif

arttrust Level 6 Dec 23, 2018
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Could you please post photos of him... I want to vicariously live through you!

PalacinkyPDX Level 8 Dec 20, 2018
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Yeah. Me too!!!! It’s so exciting! Love with the delivery fella. Could be ace!

@OwlInASack I'm going to set up a viewing stand and snack bar, you bring the booze. smile009.gif

@PalacinkyPDX well! Now your talking! Just had the Christmas delivery. Shall we have the Cotes du Rhône or the Bourgogne?

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Stranger things can happen, many years ago a friend was having a telephone installed,struck up a conversation with the cute female installer,they wound up dating,did blood tests for aids and are now married for many years.....

Mike1947 Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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Be right up front and ask "Are you seeing someone"? The worse he can answer is "Yes".

Mike1947 Level 7 Dec 19, 2018
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