What will we write in our pages of this year?
Mine: reach my errant teenager's heart. Show my step teenager that momma's give their all for their kids, including step ones. See my youngest daughter with multiple learning challenges graduate high school and enroll in college. See my next youngest daughter start college. See my two middle boys find the loves of their lives. See my oldests continue to thrive. And me... get thru these two thumb replacement surgeries, continue to find meaning and significance in my own life, and enjoy my second chance at love.
What will you write?
You sound like a force of nature. I suppose that you have to be.
You may not be able to reach the "errant" one on your timeline, but be patient (endlessly so) and understand that increasingly at that age, they have their own responsibility and it's not really all on you anymore. The other thing is that even if it's your child you have to take care of yourself. If she's cruel to you, have healthy boundaries and don't allow abuse.
My super-difficult stepdaughter is 25 and we're still worried and mostly heartbroken over her. Parents we know who had similar experiences tell us there's hope; sometimes it takes into their 30s before they understand that you're not a lame fool that they must constantly abreact to. At least in the meantime she is stably and gainfully employed and in what appears to be a decent relationship.
Wow, SaucyCheryl, being a step parent is HARD! I had one from age 15. She was not a good parent, or for that matter not a good person. Teens are hard. One of my kids was headed in a really bad direction and we got her involved with a Caregiver Night Out program. The program provided crafts and entertainment for young adults with disabilities while their caregivers got some time to themselves. My challenging teen had to be threatened to go in the first night, and when I picked her up she was SO EXCITED!!! She had a fabulous time and went eagerly after that. I think that was the point of change for her. She still had her moments, but today she is an amazing person; grounded, compassionate, and kick ass and take names for the less advantaged. Good luck in reaching and guiding your challenging children. Mothering is the best job I ever had.
I am still working on my list, but here are some I sure have to follow: Do not make impulsive $ investments, spend wisely and cautiously; get better on time management and spend more quality time with my love ones. But most important one - HAVE a designated place for my prescription glasses and STICK to the rule.