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Some relationships ended badly and some did not. Do you hold grudges or just forgive and move on. Be honest, what is your answer.

noworry28 8 Feb 25
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I have a spare bedroom. Any of my ex's came here I would give them a place a sleep. The next day, depending on who the ex was, I would negotiate rent payments for staying beyond that one night.

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I have 3. The first one could enter so I could shoot his crazy ass and may be not go to jail. The 2nd is my son's father. He'd get the couch...sadly for him, it's a love seat. The 3rd would have to go to one of the many women he slept with while we were married. This was actually cathartic. ?

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It would depend highly on which ex it was ! Some might be invited in - others would cause the crocodiles to be released into the moat !

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Make him a bed on the sofa and call his kids to come get him.

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No problem giving my ex a place to sleep - she could have the bed - the couch is pretty comfy. I learned that while we were married - it’s kind of like camping🙂

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Depends which ex. A few, I wouldn’t open the door. One of them, I’d call the police. A few others, I’d let in but just one night.

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Give them a place to sleep.

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He’s got plenty of money, I’m sure he can find a room elsewhere. We are good co-parents, no need to gray up the issue.

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I've only had 2 relationships, the first one, who was abusive, apologized to me several years ago. I'd consider letting him in.

The 2nd is my ex-husband of 20 years with whom I have 2 daughters. Extremely amicable divorce, I'd definitely let him in but he's sleeping in the spare bedroom.

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Make them both a bed up. First one I'd get him a beer and second one I'd make him some food.

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"I wouldn't recognize a grudge if it mugged me," I wrote in my profile.

Holding a grudge just hurts the grudge-holder. It's poison.

I believe in forgiveness with clear boundaries.

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