I'm sorry Stephen, do it for your kids!

It's amazing how the loss of a marriage is the same as losing my first and dad. Logically I know what to do to take care of myself and can compartmentalize/access and analyse feelings. But mind and body overrides that and does what it wants.

I co run courses on depression/anxiety that involves grief. But still all logic goes out the window. Although I have already dropped the negative feelings towards my wife and we now speak on good terms.

I think a death is the hardest thing to recover from,a divorce may have the former partners bump into each other unless one of them moves away. A breakup is the death of the relationship,perhaps your children viewed her as another mother and now have their hearts broken

Sorry to hear it.

I have had a lot of deeply frustrating and saddening things happen to me, along with general disappointments, but it is what I have rather than what I don't have that keeps me going, for better or worse. My wife, my stepson who lives with us at present, my grandchildren to an extent (they are far away), and especially my professional life keep me going. But I have my low ebbs too, and do grow weary of the struggle. When that happens I usually just push on through for a day or two until I feel better -- or, at least, less bad.

Thank you guys, just a bad day today, up and down like a yo yo.

Losing a long term marriage/relationship hurts. It sucks. But little by little, it does get better. The kids need you....focusing on them will also help you. You are stronger than you know....be kind to yourself.

It's an adjustment, and certainly not an easy one. Wishing you good fortune.