I do not grasp the significance of gender or it's defining of one's sense of self. I never have.

I don't believe it's because I am cis gendered either.

My genitals have absolutely no bearing on who I am as a person. I place zero part of who I am in what's in my pants. If I were to wake up tomorrow with a penis I would still be the exact same person I am right now, albeit I'd enjoy the helicopter thing and peeing standing up, but I would not care one way or another. It has zero significance over who I am.

Just as losing my ability to procreate has not made me feel less of a woman, magically sprouting a dick wouldn't either. But for most of society, they do. Before my surgery I heard and read and was warned about all these women who went through this terrible depression and sense of loss and felt like they were no longer a woman just because they couldn't bear children.

Why does society put so much emphasis of our sense of selves in our genitals and how well they work? I can't turn on the radio for 5 minutes without 30 Male enhancement commercials, either.

If who you are revolves around your genitals, what does that make you?

I'm not actually criticizing anyone for it that sounded like I was. I just fail to understand why it matters so much.

Can someone explain it to me in a way that makes sense to me? I've tried asking on Facebook and it's just "it's just a feeling" but why? Why do you feel this way?

I'm 100% for trans and LGBT and all of that. 100% ally. But help me understand why you need to change your genitals to feel more like your gender when your gender, or in cis gender cases why they are important to you. I'm wondering if my asexuality has something to do with why I can't grasp it