Surprisingly...within 2 miles of me....same town (next to Army base) and in a historic house that looks a LOT like mine. We are sure it was the same architect!

He's into fitness and works out 2x a day and eats vegetarian for health.

His first wife (27 year marriage) already had kids when he married her and with his Army career, he didn't want more. She died of cancer within the past year.

I'm still pinching myself that I met him.

@SkotlandSkye Still didn't say how you met him. Online, chance meeting in public, at a gym, what? You are correct that you beat overwhelming odds in meeting someone so compatible so close by in OK.

@TomMcGiverin met in a grief counseling group ---- so, crappy circumstances but happy chance meeting.

@SkotlandSkye So you are widowed like me? I went to support group for widowed people for several months, but quit going after that because, one, they all seemed very traditional and conformist, compared to me and most Agnostic.com types, and secondly, almost all the women were way older in their age or their thinking and acting. So I didn't see the point in continuing. Their informational programs at each meeting were boring and not telling me anything I didn't already know about grieving or widowed life. So the only two reasons to stay would have been to meet someone for dating or get support from the group. It was clear to me that neither of those were ever going to happen for me with all the cultural and age diffs between me and the group. Glad you ran into a better group that had at least one cool, hipster type in it. That was never going to happen for me in Des Moines Iowa.