I have a buddy I was in Vietnam with. He is one of my best friends.
We have only met only once since we served together, but we talk on the phone at least once a month.
He is from the south and when I first met him he was very racist. I thought that he had changed because of fellow vets that he was friends with that are black.
I know that he is a Trump supporter. He knows how I feel about Trump so we just don’t talk about politics.
Our last phone conversation with him, he went off about “the god damn nggrs”. This went on for about a minute before I was able to change the subject and say goodbye.
I was shocked because I honestly thought he wasn’t racist anymore. He knows I am married to an Asian and has met my wife.
This is a man that I spent some horrible times with and we had a bond that can only be forged in war.
I am heart broken that a person that I have been in communication with for almost 50 years has these views. I can put up with his political views, but I don’t know if I can continue our friendship knowing that he is a racist.
I need to know what you all think.
I just stop talking to people like that (full on racist, no "product off ignorance" issues). I feel like I should be able to think of a way to have a conversation about a productive growth experience or something, but I jyst can't. I avoid that sort of conflict I guess, it's just so difficult and unflinching.
I have the same struggle with a Trump fanatic nigger hater rich girl. Sorry for the n word. She kinda likes me. We were bullied in highschool together. It changed us for the better somewhat I think. I know that's not Vietnam but it was a kind of rite of passage and brotherhood for us. 50 years of good friendship. I think he needs an intervention. Your friend.