When i stated that people who have not taken the time and effort to ask and answer the basic questions about who they really are, what they believe and value and why, about where they are going in life, and what the consequences of those beliefs and actions are adrift in life seems to have struck a sore spot. This is my response.
When I was 22 years old, I lost my focus on college due to a painful breakup with a serious girlfriend. Facing the military draft I volunteered for the Army to get my obligation out of the way. In the Army I faced a massive emphasis on conformity and uniformity, on "don't think; just do as you are told."Facing that forced me to face the fact that I did not know who I really was. For almost my entire life, I had just done what my parents, my teachers, and my church had told me to do. In college, I had just gone along with the crowd. I was adrift in steering currents coming from my culture, my family, my peer group.
In reaction, I began a lifelong effort to define who I am (and not let others define me), where I am going, what I believe and value, and why --and I am a damned sight better and stronger person for it That journey has been aided by the acquisition of knowledge from many sectors and disciplines, related tools of thinking and analysis. and having undertaken and achieved actions of moral and social value. Had I not, I would be like all others who have not undertaken that quest -- adrift in the steering currents of the society and culture surrounding them. I genuinely believe that only those who have also undertaken that quest truly understand themselves. If that bothers you, so be it.
Sounds to me like you just decided to do what you wanted instead of what others wanted. Perhaps this was covered in your original post (as to why this is here instead of there shall remain a mystery, I guess), but what question(s) did you force yourself to answer, philosophically?
Questions like these" What to I believe and value, why, and what are the consequences for me and others of holding those. What kind of a person do I want to be, and why? What do I want to achieve and why? What goals do I want to pursue and why? What are the costs (to me and to others) of pursuing and attaining those goals. What do I need to learn to achieve what I want and to become the person I want to be? Where will I find that knowledge?