@CrazyQuilter We'll, try to cook in the bathroom and pee in the kitchen! Lol

@CrazyQuilter you need to ask that person. If you can't have that conversation you shouldnt be messing with their personal space

Maybe its a cultural thing. I'd think nothing of helping someone sort laundry or hoover for them. Its just a helping hand. Actually done for selfish reasons like I wanna move them along and get going. My son lives in squallor (in my house) I have threatened to clean lots of times!

@Amisja That's different in your house. It's also different if you are trying to get going and they are cleaning, jump in and help. Or mabey if they were activy doing a project and you were there offering to help would be OK.

Going to someone else's home and cleaning things is very demeaning unless they ask or it seems like they are hinting maybe you could offer.

@MsAl Again I've done it lots. My partner and I cleaned my sister's place (huuuuge) the day after her 50th. She was slightly hungover (ok very!) We bottomed her house. She was thrilled. Anyway seriously demean away. I currently have the joy of having to clean two houses, mine and the rental house I live in. My own house is massive. I would love it if someone turned up to help me. I'd be interested to know what other Brits think? My ex's Mum (American) said I made people feel inadequate. I had to go in and clean their place it was unhygenic. When my partner's parents turn up and clean, I love it. It does my head in that they put a teaspoon of bleach in the cups but thats just their way.