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It occurred to me (and I'm sure lots of other people have noticed) that all through literature and music are paeans to young love; love as experienced for the first time and love as experienced in youth, but almost nothing about what it feels like to be in love when you are older; what love feels like after you've been together for 30 years.
I realize of course, that for the most part it's not as intense or as all-consuming as young love, but it seems to me to be deeper and broader. I guess it's not as song or poem worthy as young love.
It's a shame, though, and someone should do something about it. I believe I will.

Tomfoolery33 9 June 1

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I never even knew love until recently.

I'll be excited to hear what you write.

I'll probably post over in the Wordsmith group whenever I get it to the point I think it's readable.

@tnorman1236 Could I request a pm of it? I'm not in that group.

@Donotbelieve Sure.


Love is love, at any age. When I do karaoke I sing from my heart!

To me it feels different. I don't think I could be "in love" the same way I was in my 20s.

@tnorman1236 when you get older, you understand that time is Not your friend, and things get unbelievably More intense!

@AnneWimsey That's not been my experience.

@tnorman1236 not met the right partner!

@AnneWimsey I guess.


Yes. Was recently thinking the same.. having cracked up laughing over a naive ‘love lyric’ just yesterday. “I’ll love you for a thousand years,” she went on, an on. Right 😉

I did thirty years, so experienced love morphing into that deeper stage. But she couldn’t, emotional difficulties.. So, ‘we’ hadn’t talked for a couple years, then had reason to, regarding one of our daughters. Talked by phone (now on opposite sides of the US) for 3 hours… Went away understanding why I’d loved her.

My take is, ‘love’ is a feeling meant to create offspring. An attraction that keeps the parents working as a team just long enough to raise a child or two. It’s obviously up there with our most powerful emotions … but like them, dissipates in time..

Varn Level 8 June 2, 2019


Don't forget Darby and Joan


I don’t believe that it’s true. Songs about love between established couples, while not common, do exist. For example:

Thanks for the Memories (

And a google search found this link to a bunch more. ([]

True, it exists, but there's not nearly as much of it.

@tnorman1236 Still enough to refute “almost nothing.”

@Rob1948 We could always use more.

Nora Jones, "I'm just sitting here waiting for you to come on home & turn me on". My fav karaoke song to sing,, now & forever!

@AnneWimsey There are also a number of applicable songs on Ronstadt’s “‘Round Midnight.” Easily my favorite.



makes me think of the love for an old recliner. comfortable if not fashionable.

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