The more time passes the more i find myself at ease with love being a chemical reaction that merely compels us to breed. I don't mean to disparage relationships but it seems the notion of soulmates and romance has an inherently dose of toxicity to it.
Aside from the fact i seldom meet like minded people, finding a like minded person to date in this arm pit of a state is like trying find a source or self generating and perpetual source of energy.
My last relationship with a christian ended horribly. And as a result i may never meet my child. As soon as she discovered she was pregnant she left. And now not only am i severely distrusting of people...i fear what damage will be done to the child because to sum her family up as bible thumping zealots would be an understatement.
What really bothers me is she seemed fine with me being an athiest. Her family wasnt. In fact she told me they kept pressuring her to call it quits with me.
And then she started pressuring me to get saved...and im at a loss is what is her and what was her families interference in what we had. So here i am. Writing this on a primarily atheist platform because i feel i have no one to turn to aside from blindly shouting into the abyss.
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I could never bring myself to date a believer. Unfortunately that has meant a lifetime of solitude. lol
Jinx5555555
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June 4, 2019
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I doubt "breeding" is in my future, at almost 71, but I still greatly look forward to the next round of "butterflies" with the next Mr. Right! I would hate to think there will not soon be another one!
AnneWimsey
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June 4, 2019
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What else could it be besides chemical reactions? There's no quantum love field or anything.
I've done some serious drugs in my lifetime and nothing, and I mean nothing, has ever gotten me higher than just being with her. We're talking not being able to navigate stairs or drive competently high, here.
So this good xtian was sleeping with you out of wedlock? Sorry about not seeing your kid, but you do have rights as a father - explore them.
1of5
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June 4, 2019
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I’m sorry that you find yourself in the situation you are. It is sometimes baffling to me how some people allow others to interfere and influence their personal relationships. Your former partner is just such a person, but it’s the child which you were going to have together and which you now may never get to know who will be the biggest loser in this entire tragedy. This, sadly is quite a familiar tale, as far as families trying to break up what they deem to be unsuitable relationships is concerned. You don’t mention how old your girlfriend is, but she is clearly not living her life as an independent adult. Yes, chemistry is the important first element in any successful, loving and intimate relationship, but it isn’t the one that sustains it long term....that is respect and love. Love without respect will wither away, sexual attraction cannot stay at the heightened level we feel in the early days of connecting, but in a healthy relationship a mutual contentment will replace that, along with a maturing love and respect for each other, and their views. Please try not to despair, I feel sure that there are many other compatible partners out there who would appreciate and respect your views on life and religion. Don’t give up, things have a way of presenting themselves when you least expect it!
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