By that point in time, I'd been talking to people online for about 23 years. I'd met some in person. I knew, and to an extent understood, the games some will play. So, how is it I rationalized away the negative signs. I looked back a few dys ago, to find the first day she had my phone number, she bombed me with 300-400 texts that day! WTH? There were other signs, if not when we met in person, then in our online conversations. But, rationalzed it away: she's (this many) years old; she's (this level of education), she works in (this) field. Certainly someone with these characteristics wouldn't be one way to play games, would she? But, apparently, she was.