A lifetime of pain is not worth it for a few short moments of pleasure, that is for sure. There are a lot of people who dwell on sex, are obsessed by it, porn, etc., and as I look at it, it clouds the mind, fucks up your good judgment, and at my age, it sure as hell is way down on the priority list. At a relatively young age, I decided I did not want children, nor did I want to be like my father who was a first class asshole who thought abusing or molesting children was acceptable behavior. I decided that I would not, matter what I had to sacrifice. That put me in direct conflict with the whole nature of being, but elevated my mind to a level well above average, which is not bragging, just the result of living different, with different goals from the average person.
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Freud was right . . . . absolutely right . . . with regard to the sublimation of the sex drive . . . and in my own view, that is why we have so many ignoramuses here in this country.
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These days sex is all over the media, and what you put into your brain comes back out . . . . it is unavoidable, for that reason alone, I do not give Hollywood much playtime. The Internet has tons of science and documentaries, ways to learn other languages, yet people want to follow the path of least resistance and it shows in our society as a whole.

I agree, such a messy affair and often requires a change of bedsheets. Overall I think I prefer a nice cup of tea and a chat

But then there are still those exciting encounters when biology takes over. It comes right after you are laughing with someone, talking without expectations and reserve and no great plans for the future.