I was never a believer, but one thing you said stood out to me and that was when you could be selfish. Sometimes it's ok to be selfish (depending on situation). It's ok to not hang out with people who drain you or make you uncomfortable or you just plain old don't want to. I know it's hard when they were people you used to hang out with. It's ok to take time for you and it's ok to say, I'm sorry, but I'm not going to participate in religion anymore. I'm still your son/husband/friend, but I can't be part of it anymore. You don't have to explain yourself. Just be gentle and firm. It will be hard for them to understand depending on how religious they are, but if they really care about you, they will come around. And if not, it's ok to move on. Easier said than done I know, but there are others out there who do not believe or have religion as a big part of their lives.

Good god (small g)

This sounds as hard as kicking heroin.

Are the Sunday get togethers like an AA meeting? I've never been to any kind of support group to purge me of anything, so hearing these things is very alien to me.

Makes me realize how lucky I was to have never been exposed to religion or anti-religion.

You don't have to give up religion in order to align yourself with factual reality; you only have to give up religious literalism.

It's been quite the journey for me too. One at a time, I've been letting go of additional beliefs I didn't recognize before as being religious and working through the new problems that crop up. Overall, though it's difficult, it is so rewarding because I know I'm being honest with myself for the first time in my life and that feels good. I also get little thrills that my daughter doesn't feel oppressed. I wish I could convince others but I know how hard the transition was for me and I have no desire of pushing someone toward that who isn't ready.

@Nakedterror, a difficult prospect indeed friend. There are a few atheists meet ups in my area (there is even a gathering every Sunday, similar to the church services we attended in our prior religious life) that I have attended in the past. I really enjoyed the camaraderie of like mindedness. I would encourage you to seek something like that out in your own area.

I sincerely wish you all the good luck in the world with navigating your
new reality.
I can't imaging trying to raise children with a spouse who still clings to
their religious delusions. I know I couldn't do it.