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Today I packed up the few things I have of my parents things. I'll be giving them back on Sunday when they're in church. I didn't think I'd be so hard. The realization of me not having my adopted family now hit hard. Hope everyone's night is going better than that lol. Night ?

MayRebel 5 Mar 22
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Seems fair enough. I have distanced myself from much of my family primarily due to their reaction to my personal religious preference. Something so trivial--religious preference brings out so much heartlessness in them. At least it reveals some of your true friends though. I always thought family was supposed to be better than even your bestest of friends, but I have instantly proven wrong. Strangely enough, I have felt more companionship and sympathy coming from complete strangers.

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Not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to stay in our lives.
That includes "family". As you move forward, making your own way, remember that
you are not alone. This is a growing community, and we are here for you.

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Why do you think you need to cut yourself off from your family? Voluntary or are they asking for things back? Thinking of you.

They don't accept that I'm an atheist now. We haven't spoken in over 3 months. They're the parents, they should be the adult about it all. But instead they're just not choosing to call me their daughter any more. So I'm moving on. I have to better myself.

I wish you the best. I was physically and emotionally abused by my parents. I had to learn to forgive them before I could heal myself. My 90 yr old mom and I barely talk and my Dad died 3 years ago after an argument that never got resolved. I never saw him again-I stared into a coffin containing a stranger. If I could do it all over again. Are you sure?

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Remember. If you survive and thrive, they were successful in raising you. Let them know, and hold true to yourself. You will succeed.

I'm gonna survive and strive and it'll be because of me. Not my bio fmaily nor my adopted family. They can't say I've become successful because of them. I'm gonna make it through this without them.

@MayRebel You misunderstand. I didn't say survive and thrive now is on them. I said they were successful in raising you. That's why if you survive and thrive now, you are successful. 😉

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There are plenty of peeps you can lean on here. Don't be shy. =] You are not alone.

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Awwww, sorry to hear. There have been estrangements in our lives, but we find our tribe, grab a rope, and hang on. We're here for you!!

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yes things will get better and all us heathens are hear

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Hang in there!

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Do whatever you need to do. We are all behind you.

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This sounds so hard. To have to go thru such abandonment in your life. Please tell me you have others to connect with and rely on. I checked out Monmouth and you do have a college there. Maybe there's some non-believer's group(s) there. Please take care. Peace.

I can't afford college. But I do have my best friend. He s everything to me

@ScienceBiker I bought a house so I can't get student loans. I'd like to be an accountant

@MayRebel There are lots of events and groups happening on college campuses that welcome non-students to attend or even become members. It's even more common in small town colleges. I attended Carleton in Northfield and it was a fairly regular occurrence for non-students to attend. Could be a possibility for more friends and acquaintances?

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I hope you have a better tomorrow. Just thinking it'll be better and not expecting much can make all the difference. I've lost family and it sucks. Now I just treat those around me like family, sometimes their not so great, sometimes their wonderful. You must be pretty strong to throw down a statement like that so I figure it'll get better for you.

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It's rough, but getting it done and putting it behind you may take some of the pressure off. Get it done and start looking forward.

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I feel anguish for your situation. I too am estranged from my parents.

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ouch, that is tough, hang in there.
I am estranged from most of my own family, limited contact with my intellectually disabled sister and a small amount with my youngest brother. He jokes that at least I am adopted whereas he is related to them. I raised him and even he keeps me at arms length though we are not hostile to each other.
I hope things look up for you, hang with some friends who make you feel good. You have your best mate and Hippo, that is a good start. Life had good and bad bits, better days ahead.
take care

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