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Its been 232 days of sobriety for me and i've been invited to two xmas parties. Should i stay or should i go?

Barrythomas 4 Nov 20
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Barry, It's the do nothing Tuesday in April no plans feeling the need to change the way I feel alone and bored that was the time I struggled Holiday's were OK not to bad things going on. Then after so long tired of the struggle I just said no more struggle so I gave myself permission to do what the hell I wanted to do and quiet counting any dam time of sobriety. No more struggles. As time went by I got older if a time came I wanted a drink with people or any thing I do I don't get as crazy stupid as before and I don't hate myself either and no one else is telling me to start my whole life over like a child and I know though the times I did stay white knuckle dry did teach me about me and for dam sure no GOD will keep me sober or matter of won't do any thing except make me feel guilty about things in my life that I have no dam reason to feel GUILTY for ! See I don't need a GOD dogma to make me do right and be a good person because I am one and I know it but I also know I'm a good person not Perfect and this works for me and the world around me. so be true to you Barry

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That you are asking the question means that the struggle is still pertinent.

I'd say dodge the parties (or limit your merrymaking to dry events) until the question itself is a non-issue.

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Only you can decide. That early in MY sobriety, in no way was I going to risk it. Why torture myself by pushing the crave buttons? Even now, years later, I find parties of high enebriation tedious (drunk people seem to find themselves a LOT more entertaining than I do).

It's your call. For me, I found other ways to celebrate than hanging out with those who do so by getting blitzed. Only some of society does, you know. Many live fun, entertaining lives without the crutch.

I wish you the best through the land mine field of the holiday season.

Zster Level 8 Nov 21, 2019
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Bring your own beverage in a distinctive container, preferably one with a carry strap.
Also, perhaps recruit a fellow party-goer to secretly give you any support you might feel you need?
Luckily, nowadays, most people do not push alcohol on others.
And you could easily state that you are a "designated driver" rather than launch into tedious explanations...I would!

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If you go, you will need a plan to refuse offers of drinks. If you haven't rehearsed a line you should. I used to say "I'm taking a break from alcohol to give the rest of you a chance to catch up." I still use that line today after 27 years. 😄

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Congratulations on your sobriety!!! Do you feel comfortable around alcohol? If so, I say go and watch them all make get silly. 232 days is impressive. You had to work hard to get there.

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Are you strong enough to stay sober; no need to reply to this question, because the answer is for you. If in doubt, don't go, and find somewhere else to be.

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Depends on the nature of the parties, I'd say. If it's just an excuse to get together and get wasted stay home.

1of5 Level 8 Nov 20, 2019
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