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This is a fable that my father told us once when I was around 11 . My father had many stories πŸ˜‚βœŒπŸ», and he will randomnly blab them out of his mouth and won’t even highlight the” moral point” , will let us figure it out . Once there was an old man . Not rich and not poor , hard and smart worker , he had his affairs in order and he was in need of nothing . He had only one child , his beloved daughter . For his daughters wedding , the man planned an extraordinary 5 day celebration . He invited all the family and his friends , and the families and friends of the newly weds to be . Horses and carriages and servants were all employed to transport the guests . At his estate , for a whole year builders and gardeners worked to build temporary establishments for the guests to stay in comfort and even luxery . The best chefs were employed to provide delicious meals for everyone for 5 days and 5 nights . Personal maids were assigned to each family or single guests to provide every litle service in need for them or their kids or their pets . The 5 day party was a success , the musicians, the actors , the magicians , the dancers were entertaining everyone , and the guests and the newly weds were having the time of their life . At the sixth day morning , when the guests got ready and packed to start their return trips , the father provided ea ch one w food baskets and beverages for the road , and a small ceramic wine cup for each to remember the day for ever . As the guests started their way back , and by noon time , a family opened the food basket and enjoyed the bread , beef , cheese and fresh fruits . There was also walnuts and wine . The father of that family cracked a walnut open , and to his dissapointement , that one was a rotten one . That man turned around to his family and said : β€œ oh wow . What a shit! What type of host serves rotten walnuts to his guests for his only daughter’s wedding ! What a cheep bastard.”
His family agreed : β€œ this is bullshit β€œ

End of story . And end of my bad attempt to translate what I remember of it . I am not sure y this story has been living in my head again since this new year and crap .
πŸ”΄Was the old man wrong for wanted to please to his best ability all his guests ? Was he an β€œ over the top idiot ? β€œ . That’s what I am interested to know from u guys . Not if the guest / family were ungrateful assholes . That I know .
πŸ”΄me at 11sh , when I first heard the story , I asked my father :” does the old man know they said that ? If i was him , I ll shove all the walnuts in their ass one by one β€œ. ( I will like to mention that my father always had huge patience w my temper and my luck of brains and vocabulary . True , and I don’t care to be ridiculous , none of u paying my bills or walk my dogs πŸ˜‚πŸ™ŒβœŒπŸ»πŸ¦‡β™₯️, I was never the bright one in our family, my sister has legendary stories about it πŸ˜‚, love me anyways ?β™₯️ )

Me at 49, I have hard time dealing w ungratefulness , but not rage . I just know that my actions are not right . Instead of taking the walnut cracker and hit some heads open , I see me running behind horses and carriages offering β€œ better walnuts β€œ. Bcz that’s what a good β€œ host β€œ, β€œ mentor β€œ, β€œ role model β€œ, β€œ thefuckiknow β€œ, β€œ I amsuperman” does . I am not Superman , or wonderwoman , and I am tired .

πŸ”΄how do u deal w ungreatfulness and excessive demands from people in your life ? Do u get upset when they complain of what u gave them for free ? Do u get sad and anxious and want to offer more ? Given the fact that we do what we do Bcz we want to see people healthy and happy, and to help them reach their best potentials , and not to hear β€œ oh thank u , great person u β€œ, y does it hurt when they don’t value our time / energy / money ? Ps :
I am soo eating walnuts after this sharing ! I know there are some down stairs πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ¦‡πŸ¦‡

Pralina1 9 Jan 23
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  1. Not wrong, but way over the top.

  2. I only give to whom I want what I want to give, knowing that these things were never mine to give in the first place. Their reactions to what I give is usually immaterial. I see "excessive demand" as a demand that wants more than what I can give, and by definition I cannot meet that demand. So I don't worry about it.

I am an old man, not rich or poor, and fairly stable in my life. I have a daughter whom I love very much. But I would definitely not show my love for my daughter in that fashion. And I wouldn't give a flying %$&# what anyone thought about my walnuts.

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There are people who are impossible to please everywhere. Be elsewhere as much as possible.

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The person who gives without expecting anything in return will ultimately be the better for it.....but, admittedly, it is a rather hard path to walk at the time. We try to take such good care of the people we love - and sometimes have to wonder why they can't see that ....and why they don't reciprocate in kind. Here's what I've learned: some people are givers and some are takers. They're hard wired that way - and its very difficult to change them. So take a deep breath and ask yourself - are you better off with them in your life....or not? The answer might surprise you. πŸ˜‰

Only u .

@Pralina1 πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰ πŸ˜‰

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This story reminds me of all the times I have tried to accommodate complaints because I wanted cooperation with a project only to finally realize these complainers were never going to cooperate regardless of my actions. My current reaction has been to respond with, " I'm so sorry that you disagree, Unfortunately we are so far along on this that its impossible to change course. Perhaps you can find something else you can contribute to."

I like it.

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I always love your stories Pralina. The old man can do whatever he wants with his money for his daughter. I suspect if he knew about the walnut reaction, that family would eventually be purged from his and his daughters life. Life is so very short. It is best to cast off and distance ourselves from the small and churlish.

I would find another friend to make. Preferably one that enjoyed walks outside, fine spirits, music and laughter.

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There is so much here from overindulgence to ingratitude. I love giving gifts that are well received, but hate giving them if they are expected. People that look the proverbial gift horse in the mouth, are lacking in something, and I normally don't like being around them. The fable gives a lot to think about, which is what they are supposed to do, thank you for sharing, it is a wonderful gift.

The horse in the mouth . I have heard of this here in America . U are right .

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I don't have people like that in my life. I don't interfere in my friends and families lives unless they ask. I don't like people interfering in my life unless invited. Some people live very safe lives, afraid to take a chance, and think their friends and family should do the same. I also realize just because I may think what I am doing is in their best interest does not mean they feel the same way. Sometimes people can feel you are being meddlesome. It can be very subjective.

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Good one honey I deal with ungrateful people simply " fuck off and good bye "

bobwjr Level 10 Jan 23, 2020

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Good story, and it is so rich with possible interpretations, you could go on for pages.

No the old man I think was not wrong to do with his wealth whatever he wished, but he maybe wrong to expect to please everyone perfectly, no mater what he did. there is never perfection. But that would depend on his expectation. Or perhaps he was wrong if giving his money away, to give it to the wrong people, maybe he should have made a gift to the young couple instead, or made a gift to charity in their name, instead of wasting it on those who were not in need. Who knows ? It is, as I say, rich with themes.

The guest who found the rotten walnut reminds me of the term. "Ugly tourist." Used sometimes for travelers. Meaning the type of traveler who is not prepared to make, even the slightest accommodation, to the place they find themselves in. The sort who, having had a wonderful meal in a foreign land, goes to the wash room, and then emerges to complain loudly that the plug on his razor will not fit the wall socket. When of course the main fault is with himself for not doing his research and buying the appropriate adapter. But then some people do make the loudest compliant when it is mainly their own fault.

I ve seen that . And some times it bothers me . U are right .
Thank u β™₯️

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