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Sitting here watching some episodes of Hoarders. Watching this will either make you feel good about how your living space looks or make you want to declutter.

Not to make light of this disorder because it is truly sad. Stories of people who had a traumatic circumstance happen in their life and got stuck there. Does hoarding give them a measure of control in their lives that they didn’t have in other areas? Is it a type of self medicating? At what point do people intervene when it becomes apparent that hoarders aren’t making good decisions and their health and safety is literally in danger? What a conundrum because people can try to go in and clean and declutter and I use that term loosely, but how long before it gets back where things were before? Is there a cure?

While I wouldn’t say my late husband was a hoarder, he was definitely a “pack rat”. I have heard that men are really bad about throwing things out because “I might need that oddball screw someday.” So maybe I can attribute his inability to get rid of things to that. I sometimes wonder had I passed before him, would he have become a hoarder? When he passed away, my stepson and I filled a huge dumpster with things from the garage and his office space that no one wanted or had no value.

At what point does someone go from just not being able to get rid of things to being a full blown hoarder?

IrishTxJudy 8 Feb 2
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I think theres also a generational aspect, and an economic aspect. Older people tend to be less comfortable throwing things away (usually not a bad thing), but so few things are designed to be saved or even recycled, these days. Add people who grew up poor... things become more valuable, because they represent resliance.

I think there needs to be a distinction between the kind of hoarding i just described, and the mental illness that leads to people saving everything and anything. Like @bleurowz described, that kind of hoarding is much harder to understand, for people who havent really seen it or lived it, and its just as useless to expect those hoarders to "snap out of it", than it is to tell a depressed person to "adjust their attitude".

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I have a friend whose sister just died of brain cancer. I've helping my friend clean out her sister's apartment.

The sister was a hoarder, an end-times christian prepper, and a right-wing radio talk show listener. I personally carried out more than 40 cans of food over 10 years out-of-date. The sister saved used plastic gloves and used plastic forks. I filled a laundry basket with ballpoint pens. She also had camping gear, portable stoves, raincoats, ... all the stuff you need to take care of your people who apparently missed the rapture.

The place stunk so bad I had to wash my clothes when I got home. It has motivated me to clean up my own place, lest some of my friends be subjected to a similar experience.

Seen this in real life. Glad the sister wasnt there any more. Sometimes its the only way.

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I get itchy if I have too much "stuff"...except of course odd bits of mechanical things......

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Hoarding is really a physical manifestation of something serious going on emotionally. It's really not enough to clean things up, but to deal with what triggers the behavior in the first place. There's a lot of overlap with addiction and OCD... I'm not a hoarder per se, but I'm certainly a clutterbug and I tend to hold on to too many things long after they have no meaning or use for me. I've managed to make inroads with this, but it hasn't been easy. There is a skewered feeling of control that comes with acquiring and holding on to things, especially for someone who may fear their life isn't in control -- traumatic experiences and/or overwhelming emotions that feel too daunting to face or learn to contain. I've had to own some very uncomfortable things about my life; doing so ironically gave me the freedom to let go of a lot, both physically and emotionally.

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