What dissappoints me most when reading posts by many atheists/agnostics is the tendency to blame the victim. I was brainwashed into religion as a child and I know the difficulties of escaping so I'm aware that the religious devotee is a victim of the church, not someone to be ridiculed or reviled. The one's who deserve derision and blame are the ones who take advantage of their followers or who push their creed to advantage themselves. As frustrating as they can be the others deserve understanding and compassion as we might give anyone who was the victim of oppression. Besides that, no one ever came to enlightenment through being subject to blame and disrespect: That just causes them to dig in as it did to the original converts. And I understand how annoying and frustrating they can be with their selfrighteousness but we're not better if all we can do is criticise and denigrate.