I just had my heart broken for the fourth time by a Honduran woman. She's also religious. But she had sex before she got married she has two children from two different guys then she took them away from me even though I love them like they were my own. I actually used to drive her and the kids to church and then come back later and pick them up. So I probably won't hook up with another person who has young children. It's not fair to the kids or me.

I just had my heart broken for the fourth time by a Honduran woman. She's also religious. But she had sex before she got married she has two children from two different guys then she took them away from me even though I love them like they were my own. I actually used to drive her and the kids to church and then come back later and pick them up. So I probably won't hook up with another person who has young children.

I'm in a marriage with a fanatical New Ager. It's difficult. We love each other and have worked to find common things we can do together and enjoy. But the fact remains there is a huge gulf between us, like the big elephant in the living room that we tiptoe around. It's not easy.

You're not the only one that got their answer - you can't ignore your responsibility for the inevitable failure of this marriage i.e., you're not a victim. You kept from her the fact that you didn't share her religious beliefs - you can't be shocked that when the truth did come out that she would have a less than positive response. Your marriage started, at least in one area, based on a lie - relationships based on dishonesty have a tendency not to last very long.

I once dated a woman who said, "this is just not gonna work unless I'm with a God-fearing man"
I guess she thought that I was gonna instantly change. Nope! Besides, I wasn't that thrilled about the relationship anyway.

I once dated a woman who said, "this is just not gonna work unless I'm with a God-fearing man"

The pull of religion is strong. If she is now unhappy with you because of this, I say leave. Because God this... and God that... and it says here that you will burn in hell, and her pastor says blah blah blah. She's listening to everyone else but you.

It will be good enough for her when she is asked why she left you. She will simply say "he came out as an athiest."

You have my sympathy.
My ex was religious but not overly so when we married. I was an agnostic and tried going to church for her, even going so far as to be baptized before realizing that I couldn't reconcile religion and the real world... and realizing that I'm an atheist. She came to grips with my not going to church, but never accepted my non-belief. She became more religious in response; I'm sure she was praying for me as well.
Our differences over religion were just one of the many things that led to the divorce. Don't take that as advice, it's just what happened with me.

If she loves the church more than you, you have no marriage anyway, sad, shocking, but true.
If she would rather have you live a lie, she is only protecting her own reputation, she does not care about you in a secular sense and from her point of view nor in a religious sense either because she knows by her law you're damned and she does not care.
I'm sorry, but you are the one who has been decieved.

You do have your answer, although perhaps it's not the one you wanted to hear and it must hurt. I was in a similar situation and once I admitted to my ex husband that I had become an athiest (many reasons too numerous to mention here), he tried to turn my children against me, saying I was evil because I didn't believe in god. All the while he attended church and read his bible, he was a manipulator and liar and broke the law on more than one occasion. Sometimes their views become very judgemental and one sided and it's an unhealthy situation in which to remain. You have the right to be who you are, and since she's not willing to accept that, you have the right to leave so you can be that person. I am much happier since I Ieft my marriage.

Do you have children? My initial thought is get the hell out of there.

If your kids are grown split the assets and move on.

thats so sad, and just one more reason religion kinda scares me. 4 me the thought that my family isnt supposed 2 come first is just so wrong. im sorry she feels that way but u can do better. hold on 2 who u r and u will be happy no matter who comes or goes. hugs man

I'm sorry, Sparky. Sometimes, it takes breaking something to fix something else.

I'm very sorry we are here for you.
I hope that things work out for you.

Well, there are worst things that can break up a marriage. Her taking whatever God is over you should say something about the viability of the relationship anyway. Have to say though, you converting to a religion for her was probably a bad idea. Probably should have said that you couldn't do so in good faith.

I'm actually kind of surprised that she didn't notice your indifference towards religion in the first place.

I was told that from ex bf. An exact same phrase.
"God comes first"

He was one of those who fears God.

Yup, fear tactics always work to control people.

Do you have children? Because if you do it can’t be healthy for them to see their parents at odds like this....and so unaccepting (her)

Wow. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I've never been married, so I don't have any good advice to give. I don't want to give the wrong advice either. I've told my family I'm an atheist. I talk to my therapist about it as well.