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How do you channel your anger? I once totally demolished a completely functional kitchen under the guise that it needed to be remodeled. The truth is I was venting over something. And later regreted it. What do you do when you are boiling over with anger?

Shelton 8 Apr 11
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I try to catch and calm myself, rationally, as soon as I feel the physical signs of rage. I learned, through therapy, how situations that are out of our control will stimulate more and more primitive parts of the brain, part of the "fight or flight" mechanism.

It's a powerful feeling when I'm able to feel myself breathing heavier, or my chest/stomach tightening, and start taking deep and deliberate breaths. The key is to realize I'm not being physically attacked, so I don't need to respond as such.

It takes practice, and I don't always catch myself. Which means I'll probably start swearing in a very profane and blasphemous way.

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I rarely feel angry. Vigorous exercise is a great tension reliever. Hiking, weightlifting, running and meditation.

After exercising, I feel centered, calm, and filled with endorphins that make me feel happy. Love it.

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I just don't get that way anymore or haven't in a long while. I just swear.

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Exercise.

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Must get outside!!!! And alone!!!!

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I grew up believing that tantrums were the norm. They are not. If life routinely leads a person to smashing stuff, or even really wanting to smash stuff, it's probably a chemical inbalance that should be addressed.
It's a great feeling not to get that angry at all anymore.

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Breathe... take a walk... vent to a friend, not at my friend.

Fab Level 5 Apr 11, 2018
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I've worked very hard to love who I am. It's been a long time, several years in fact, since I have been angry enough to slam doors or throw things. Sounds like you have some issues which might need some professional help to overcome.

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Some ways are: creating artwork, poetry, walking (well marching really!) and cleaning.

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Talk to a professional

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I save every piece of glassware I get. E.g., old spagetti sauce jars. I use them for drinking out of.

When I get mad, I throw them at walls.

alxa Level 5 Apr 11, 2018

I almost never clean the glass up properly. I've stepped on glass hundreds of times. I hope to soon develop an immunity to glass because of this.

After which, I will take up the moniker "glass woman" and I will throw glass at criminals. I'll be a superhero.

Alxa, my sister enjoys throwing glass bottles into a deep, metal recycling bin.

@LiterateHiker Not messy enough for me. Also, how will I become a superhero with that technique?

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I always hit the gym. (Metaphorically, lol) Ironically, literally running helps me deal with a problem rather than metaphorically running from it. There’s something about the brute force of endorphins that never fails. Sometimes meditating works. Sometimes writing about it works. Sometimes venting with a friend works. But running 6 Miles ALWAYS works, for me at least. After a strenuous run being angry seems impossible.

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Mountain Bike hard - yoga - write music or lyrics / poetry.. Slay racist trolls online lol.

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I don't get violent. I had my father tear the freezer door off the fridge. I've run through glass doors with him chasing me. My ex used to punch holes in the wall and once pushed me into one. I don't do well with angry people. I've avoided them for 9 years now. I yell if I'm angry-hate violence.

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I totaled out my car without ever turning the key.

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I just go outside and scream at everyone and beat them up lol

Kidding. I don't usually get too angry. When I do it's not something I really have to actively have a release for. Usually just a few minutes and I'm good.

I did go ballistic the other night on some guy driving on the highway. He's lucky it was the highway and we didn't have the chance to stop. The asshole cut off my friend and then deliberately stopped short to try and get us to hit the back of his yellow cab. Then he went on the side of us and tried to swipe the car. I went ballistic. He wouldn't look at me, but I know he heard me lol

I felt a calm after that from just screaming at him and releasing my tension. I think I might have actually "ripped his fucking head off" like I said I wanted to if it was on the street and we were able to stop lol. I have known my friend for 11 years now and he turned to me and said he's never seen me like that. I think I might have scared him a little. He was pretty pissed too though. That asshole was really messing with our lives. We were going like at least 40-50 mph. I can't remember being that mad for a long time.

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  1. I walk away.
    Nothing good ever happens when you're fuming and remain in that moment. Going for a walk, working out, changing your scenery or company are you ways to get away from whatever is making you mad. Set a breaking point before you actually break. Walk away when you reach that point.

  2. I ask myself why I'm angry.
    Sometimes something will trigger you and you won't really know why. At least point you need to self-reflect. Something within you is unresolved and should probably be addressed

  3. I try to let myself actually feel my feelings.
    That doesn't me cry at the drop of a hat or anything like that.. I only mean to actually let yourself feel the feeling you have. There is no such thing as a "bad" feeling. Society tells us that sadness, anger, jealousy, envy, etc are "bad" or "negative" feelings. This makes us try to hide these feelings instead of addressing them and trying to figure out why we feel this way. Address why something makes you sad or embarressed or whatever you're feeling might help you rationalise and solve your problem, instead of just blowing up.

KDzo Level 4 Apr 11, 2018
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I am rarely really, really angry. I'm just one of those naturally good natured people. On the rare occasion that I do get really angry I tend to internalize. I usually clench my jaw, cry uncontrollably, vent to a friend or two via electronic communication. I do not want to be around people because I know I'll be bawling. I'm not really a violent or smash things type of person.

I'm thinking what you did, while certainly more costly money-wise, is probably more healthy than what I do.

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Taekwando or shooting people on xbox

@Shelton violence has always been a good stress reliever and this way no one actually dies and it's consentual

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