Hi, so I had a sad day. My sisters and I decided to take our mom off of all of her meds today. She was on a blood clot medicine and without that she will most likely have a stroke. It's really a bittersweet day but she is just out of control at the nursing home trying to escape all the time it's just never ending. The doctor agreed we were doing the right thing even though it's a very difficult decision to make. We have to keep reminding ourselves that we're doing it out of love because she's not living a quality life. It's really very sad.
Sounds like you have made the correct choice for her.
That is difficult to decide upon, sorry to hear such. Sounds like you and your sisters made the best decision though, as hard as it be.
Good morning baby girl. I hope today is a better day for you. I guess I will start by telling you about my baby boy Jacob. I grew up in Franklin, NC, but I spent most of my adult life in CA-- mostly in San Francisco. I came home 13 years ago and met his mother at a club. I went home with her and we kicked it for a couple of weeks. I didn't know her AT ALL. The more I got to know her, the less I liked her. She told me she was pregnant. I demanded DNA testing. It came back 99.997 per cent. To my credit, I have been a very dutiful father to Jacob for his entire life. Although I really don't like his Mom as a person, we have learned how to co parent. I LOVE MY JACOB!
This is when I become an advocate for drugs like marijuana, mushrooms, LSD, DMT... These are all drugs that should be used when someone is making that transition from life to death. Or just used for fun recreationally if one is being responsible.
Sometimes the kindest thing is the hardest at the time.
I know, We took my mother through the nursing home routine and of course felt the guilt. She became late stage alzheimers and that was it for me. She was not home, nor even in there. ONly 17%, as I have read, die at home. I believe to let natural death happen. I do not want the white room, white sheets and the tubes. No thank you and I only hope my kids do not do this to be believing it is bes for me, it is not best for me. I would rather have an accident or something that succumb to a life without my mind
I hear you and I certainly understand. My step father was so afraid of dying in a nursing home that he deliberately made it hard for any one of us to have power of attorney over him. Then, because he could only walk with a cane, he fell and broke his hip. This brought about a long ordeal that finally ended well with my daughter as his POA. He's in a good nursing home and has dementia. I went through hell doing all the legal leg work for this and I know he thinks that I hate him. It's not so.
Recently he got angry with them and threatened to leave. He told my daughter about it and she told him he could not walk. His reply was "has anyone around here ever heard of a cane?"