Today was and is one of the very saddest days of my life.
I have a woman friend that I stay in touch with loosely through Facebook. We met a few years ago at an industry conference. When we met, she was going through a tough divorce. I'd been through the drill, so I was able to answer questions, just be someone she could speak with. We had a nice, friends-relationship. Over the time since we met I've enjoyed seeing posts of her dogs (she has two or three at a time), her daughter as she grew up, and so on. This December, as I always do, I sent her a merry Xmas note via FB.
She responded this morning, saying: Sorry I just saw this. I don't know what to say since V isn't here.
Her 15-year-old daughter and only child died in May. Suddenly, unexpectedly, without warning, natural causes. Yeah, I cried.
FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK
As the others have said make yourself available. When my husband died a very close friend I had lost touch with made it a point to find me again. She started calling and checking on me. It meant the world to me just knowing she was still my friend and thought to call and check on me. Time and distance had separated us but we were as close as ever. She was a true friend when I desperately needed one.
Life can throw us some very bad things at times. Be there for her if she needs someone to reach out to, even now after so many months have passed. I lost my son on 20th January 2019...my support which got me through was my friendships.
I will, thanks.
The loss of a child is a pain no one should have to endure.