"Some times it must be easy to have a faith"

Well ... Yeah ! You only need to have a bit of faith in yourself, not a deity.

What was that great pop song a few years ago with words something like "Jump - you'll always land somewhere"

There are people out there who will appreciate all your efforts, by repaying the favour, and actually liking you in return.

Follow the inner peace - it always works. Why should Theists have all the good things

I know that feeling. I was with Jayne for eleven years, we are still friends, and have a beautiful little boy, who will be ten in May. Our main concern was separating and causing as little pain as possible for Miles, and I think we have achieved that. But I still find it strange at times, when I am sitting in my Flat, alone, especially when night falls. I tend to do whatever I can to distract myself..read, sketch, play guitar, etc...being solo after years of being with someone takes a lot of getting used to, but it will all work out in the end.

You never stop being a mother. Not being a wife is a new experience..embrace it, and move forward. You cannot change the past, but you can create and shape a new future.
Life is a ride; enjoy the ride.

Don't worry, I know how you feel. Except the first one left me to be "a full-time worker for god" (Jeebus! - that's worse than women!), and the second one became a schizo after he stopped drinking. So don't blame the women - it was all your husband's fault - if he hadn't been available, no woman could have got him. And you'll always be a mother, and a grandmother one day - you don't need a husband for that. I'd love to have a super husband but I ain't found one yet!

A new life opened up to me after my divorce, if I were a theist I might say it was miraculous. Much better life outlook now not being shackled down. Your children might have their own children some day and the women I know say being a grandma is great.

I know how that feels, and you have my sympathy. Onward and upward - who knows what happiness lies in the future?