Dude- I can't address why you didn't get your level 8 shirt from this site, but I can say that your approach is certain to fail with the women on here. I too live in Iowa, and I can also tell you that our state is useless as far as being any kind of dating pool on this site, Agnostic.com, as there are almost no active members on here anymore, male or female, that still live in Iowa. So this site may only be useful for guys like us if we are willing to date someone hundreds of miles away, assuming there are even any women from this site still willing to date long distance these days. From these forums, it appears there are few to none willing to do that. I know that I am not willing to put myself thru that. I am putting my hopes into Match and, if you have the money and net access, I suggest you do too, as in using a real dating site with a paid membership.