I saw all the red flags and thought it was a carnival, I bet there are a lot who did the same. You don't realize they were red flags until retrospection.

Nah . I don’t care , and makes the wedding / playing house industry moving . No problem . I don’t care how many x someone gets married either .
However , should be licences and tests and mandatory education and health exams and psych Evals b4 people reproduce .
Poor or rich , doesn’t matter .
Not everyone should reproduce in life .
And I can see the rich paying their way through and the poor not , so here we are , wishful thinking , will never happen
Kids will be born to fetch for selves , to be abused , to be abandoned physically and emotionally , and to be used for ego purposes and as a crutch or even as a weapon until the end of times

I don't think the government should have anything to do with making it harder to get married, but it should become a social custom to really think about about marriage, maybe by popularizing pre-marital counseling, not forcing, but making it somewhat customary, utilizing the decision of how they define their spirituality or world beliefs, secular, humanistic, agnostic, deist, etc., for some sort of foundation of basic human values they hold in common to get them centered.

I perform weddings for a living. I don't counsel my couples, since I actually usually don't even meet them in person until a day or two before their wedding, but I do ask them leading questions to get to the crux of why they are choosing to be married.

I fully believe that if anyone had ever asked me what I liked about my (now ex-) husband, or our relationship, or myself when we're together, I either would not have gone through with the marriage, or may have found something grounding enough to have kept me in the marriage longer than the 29 years I suffered through it.

Perhaps more needs to be addressed in the interim between the proposal and the actual wedding for what each party in the marriage is expecting or hoping to achieve by the marriage, so they are going into it more thoughtfully than I did. I think that's part of why I do what I do... I am somehow trying to right something for others that went wrong for me.

It's far easier to break off an engagement than to get a divorce. Also easier to get a divorce before children enter the picture.

Quite agree.

I have always thought so too.
Not even tongue in cheek.
There should also be a two year waiting period.