The thing that I am finding particularly challenging about my divorce is the finality of it.
That every item of mine she increasingly wants out of her house. As if the tempo has quickened.
And that's fine. I like my stuff. But - I don't know - it just confirms that it's truly over. The evacuation; the displacement.
Don't get me wrong, she and I are not in any dispute. It's the emotional fallout. That and the fact that I now have a two hour round drive to pick things up from her place.
I did not expect this to be easy, but Christ in a sidecar I did not expect it would be this hard.
And, as I say, final. This is probably just another one of those grieving steps or whatever. And I'm sure I'm not the first person to do this.
Any thoughts or observations?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I’m sorry. I know how bad it sucks. X 3. This last one was the worst. Took nearly three years to get through it(& there’s no way round BUT through it, sadly). IMHO I think feeling the loss, acknowledging it, processing in your chosen manner are essential parts of grief and recovery. It gets better in fits and starts. Then one day you hear from them, or of them...and the painful part is over.
CarolinaGirl60
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Apr 27, 2018
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You’ll be done with it soon. Enjoy the ending bro
NothinnXpreVails
Level 8
Apr 27, 2018
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I was rather hoping for a fresh start, but thank you 
@Palindromeman huh?
@NothinnXpreVails The ending part. Kind of ominous.
@Palindromeman but is it not a good thing?
@NothinnXpreVails That is the question de jour.
Hang in there. No matter the cause, it's a loss and grief is normal.
BlueWave
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Apr 27, 2018
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I'm trying real hard:
Now would be a great time to downsize and do one of those "Joy of tidying up" things where you get rid of duplicate stuff, and only keep things from each pile that give a feeling a joy when you pick them up.
It's surprising what you don't miss when you unclutter your life. When I moved to Thailand, I left most of my stuff to be donated.
birdingnut
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Apr 27, 2018
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Thanks. It's a process. Actually, everything is a process, so there's that.
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