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How do you respond to a very kind and loving father with whom you've made it fairly clear you're no longer a theist yet sends you texts like these on a fairly regular basis?

"I thought this quote from My Upmost For His Highest today an excellent thought and I want to share it with you.
"'We are not asked to believe the Bible, but to believe the One whom the Bible reveals.'

"'You study the Scriptures diligently because you think that in them you have eternal life. These are the very Scriptures that testify about me, yet you refuse to come to me to have life.' John 5:39-40.
Love you son."

Bekind 3 May 5
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You ignore them, or thank him because he means well. I get daily emails from my father about extreme right-wing political crap, but the only time I respond is when they're urban legends (which is frequently the case).

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My youngest sister, the only one in my family excepting daughters thaI am in contact with because of religious bullying, keeps sending me religious stuff. I’ve stopped asking her to stop it, sh’s a good person & I love her. I just delete without reading anything that isn’t her chatting. Otherwise I’d feel constant disgust. belief in a higher power or energy is ok. Religious lectures or manipulation doesn’t deserve to be viewed in my humble oppinion. I don’t care who is sending it 🙂

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You can give him peace of mind, just tag along and the part. He is not going to change neither will you but at least you can make things bearable for him. I don't see any harm on that.

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Agnostics and are all just human. I would like to think that I have come to believe that the myths are harmful, but that by my example we are all loving. Religion causes torment. It's my personal responsibility to provide the least amount of concern as possible. Acknowledging another's beliefs to be true for them is most important to me.

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It's like dealing with socialists, discovering freedom and peace and losing the god government ..
they cannot fathom a world without someone being screwed thru taxes and war, and the only thing to do — since logic, facts, reason, evidence have failed — is to move on

moxy Level 4 May 6, 2018
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Tell him that you believe that the truth is that the God of the Bible is imaginary and that this truth has set you free. Anyone who has read the gospels will understand the irony.

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If he's really kind and loving he'll respect your atheism.

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I know people who claim to honestly believe in a literal Hell. If they cared anything about me, and believed that my disbelief would earn me eternal torture, I would think very little of them if they didn't try to save me from it. I'm dead serious. When I believed in god, I didn't believe in Hell, so I didn't worry about people going there, but if my mother knew I was an atheist (I've never told her), I'm sure she would do what she could to convince me to have a change of mind.
Think about it. If you thought a loved one was going to suffer eternal torment from a vengeful god, would you not do all you could to save them? I would devote my life to it.

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Send an blasphemous memes

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Don't get upset, just ignore them. He sends them because he cares what happens to you and he believes Just make a conscious dicision not to let it bother you. Just say "Love you too Dad" then click, delete. It bothers you because you choose to let it bother you.

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"That's nice, Dad."

Respond this way to each religious text.

vita Level 7 May 6, 2018

And add "I love you too" or just "love you Dad"

"I love you too," is a better response than mine. My reply conveys some boredom with the subject ... which isn't kind.

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With kindness and love ?

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Just ask him in a very nice way to stop saying these things as you never try to stop him being religious all the time.

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My cousins are frequently in touch with me trying to convert me. I thank them and tell them that I appreciate their thoughts and prayers then change the subject to focus on the happiness in their lives. They only want what their perception of the best is. I simply feel I'm an anthropologist visiting a different culture when I'm with them. I simply follow their lead.

Very interesting way to approach it.

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I said... Hey dad, can you stop sending me that stuff? I don't send you pro-atheist stuff because I respect that we have different views. I'm asking that you also respect that we have different views.

He stopped... Shocked the hell out of me.

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It's one of the most sad things about religion. He genuinely believes his faiths tenants. unfortunately one of those is that people who don't believe get punished forever, eternal torture, etc. From his viewpoint he'd do anything to "save" you from that. It's not really his fault he's sending those to you, even though they're annoying. He's been trained to do that. Because I mean, who would want someone eternally damned? That instilled fear is what drives him, well that + love together. Whatever you do or say, just know it comes from a ****ed up yet good place. So I wouldn't be cruel or flippant.

Perhaps tell him about how it makes you feel to get those texts. Politely of course. Tell him how you know hes worried and that you love and appreciate him for it, but its not your path to follow.

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Do the same thing back but with stuff he does not believe in like from the quran, or the satanic bible, maybe a few atheist quotes ect. Then gauge his responses and say you feel the same way when he does it and to please stop. I always liked the one saying, there are about 10,000 gods on this earth, you don’t believe in 9,999 of them, I don’t believe in 1 more than you. What makes your god the only god?

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He's coming from a place of ignorance and concern. Give him the understanding, in a kind way, of what peace and tranquility there is in accepting reality. I think he is trying to help in the only way he understands.

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I would tell him to cool it with the religion. you wouldn’t want me sending you text about how religion is fake and god not being real so respect me as i respect you.

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Be kind in return. Say that you appreciate his thought but you do not believe in God anymore.

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