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I don't miss church but I do miss the coming together the togetherness of worship. I feel lonely sometimes because I want to worship but now I'm like...worship who? What? I find myself still wanting to pray and talk to a heavenly being as a father type. Religion confuses us..and old habits are hard to break.

Ninaneenanina 3 May 5
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I never missed a second of it. At 14 when l quit going l was so relieved knowing l never had to go again. ??????

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I've read all the comments to this post, and I'd like to agree that most Christians that I know are fine upstanding people; although, I don't agree with the stories they believe to be true. I also find meditation to be a great help in regulating my thoughts and feelings concerning all aspects of life.

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All the religious bs that you were tought will go away in time. I will some of it is still with me and wish I could rid of it. Hopefully it will some day in the very near future. I don't miss going to church or being a member of the baptist cult.

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You might explore the Unitarian Universalists church. "They assert no creed, but instead are unified by their shared search for spiritual growth. As such, their congregations include many atheists, agnostics, and theists within their membership." [from Wikipedia] I am an atheist and although I have never attended or visited a Unitarian Universalists church, I occasionally consider doing so, if only for the socialializing and the opportunity to converse with others with different points of view. There is one in nearly every city throughout the world.

I have considered the Unitarian church just because it would be nice to be part of a congregation without all of the religious bullshit. However, I confess that I'm not particularly knowledgeable about them. My family attended a Unitarian church when I was kindergarten-aged. I recall being taught about Jesus and evolution in Sunday school.

@vita Wikipedia has nice background: [en.wikipedia.org]; here is information on their beliefs, by them: [uua.org]. I hope this helps.

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Human and Social Interaction seems to be the goal here. I found Social Media a new forum for that; on some levels. Cherishing the people around me that I find interesting (which is most of them) and going out as much as possible to meet new people has given me that new avenue. I started a running group for example and joined a cycling group.

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You could a yacht club and go sailing, most racing is on Sundays. Good for companionship and a whole lot more fun than kneeling for an invisible man in the clouds 🙂

Often we have great counciling sessions after the racing whilst enjoying a glass of wine and our friends company

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I miss it too, I grew up in the Church. While they have a few facts wrong, they do believe in loving your fellow man. Its been my experience that Christians for the most part are very good people.

gater Level 7 May 6, 2018
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I totally relate to that and have struggled a bit with the same issue. I have considered Humanist Society Meetings or even a Unitarian Universalist Church but my small town does not offer either and I don't have time for a long commute.

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It's interesting that you begin by saying you don't miss church, but the rest of the post suggest that you do. I have a term for it. I call it residue religion. I've even said to some professed agnostics (particularly) and other non religious people that I think they are residue believers. It's not a put down, in fact I symphathize. There are certain tell tale comments: I don't miss religion but.... I don't believe any more in the church but... I'm an agnostic about God now but.... I like the Pope and the church but....and so on. It's what religions do: mound people at a formative stage of their life, and for some, not all, expunging that can be a challenge. I'm no one's trained counsellor, but from my life experience, I would suggest thinking about what need there is to fill, such as greater social involvement or engaging with those whose advice you respect. The big cosmic daddy in the sky that loves and forgives us is a powerful potion religions peddle shamelessly, because it resonates with the inner child, no matter how old you are, can be addictive, and they know it. You have to truly slay that religious dragon, and I mean totally dead, before you can move on, knowing you've liberated yourself from it for good.

First I like the term residue religion. I think it is a good descriptor. I am unusual as I never "felt a void" even though religion was the most important thing in my life. Why do you beg to ask? Religion it's self was a void and there was no god in the first place, to me it was already a void to begin with. If there was substance to it ( a real god) there would have not been a void in the first place. As a result I did not feel as if I lost anything. I did and do miss the since of community and purpose. If this is a void I have simply involved myself in community projects. I can actually not feel guilty about the somewhat selfish emotion of feeling good about myself for helping others. I often joke that I just help others because it is all about me making myself feel good....about myself. If I do help someone else then two people get good out of it. I do not work hard and give a mythical God the credit or feel guilty for acknowledging MY accomplishments. As a result I actually get more out og helping others than i ever did. My cup overflowth!

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Universalist-unitarian services are not "gawd" centered in any way...give them a try!

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Religion has co-opted our need for community and companionship, that's why punishments like shunning and excommunication work so well. Alain be Botton has some interesting thoughts on our need for religion apart from some omnipotent administrator.

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Hi Ninan, The very act of worshiping something, is totally demeaning . Worship only belongs to upstarts like the little fat guy in North Korea, or another bod like Jesus Christ.
Get together with your friends and enjoy the experience of " fellowship " with those who have earned it.

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This might not be helpful to you but I talk to myself all the time when I'm alone... I think prayer is effective in the sense that the time is taken to verbalize an issue which helps you process it better and it makes finding a solution easier. Im going to break it into two types,

Praying alone: this helps you find a solution because it was you that you were talking to in the first place and whether your prayers are answered or not you accepted the end result because it was "god's" plan... In other words, just do what you can and accept what happens for what it is.

Praying for people while in front of them: this type of prayer is, in my opinion, a bit self gratifying, it's more for the pray'er rather than the pray'ee. Our brains reward us for praise and when you pray in front of people those people shower you with words of praise... It's an addiction.

I say just talk to yourself and answer yourself cuz answering yourself isn't crazy, thinking a magical being is listening and granting wishes is crazy.

Though... I might be crazy cuz

"crazy doesn't know they are crazy, that's why they are crazy." -- Jim Jeffries

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You could try these [uua.org]

Holy Koolaid did an article on them

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