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How do you like it?

I asked this question once before and it went over about as well as a bee hive in a children's petting zoo.

One of the things I find most curious are the preferences people have for pain during sex. I can't stand pain and have the ibuprofen to prove it ? It perplexes me why anyone who choose to have their intimate partner hurt them. I couldn't do it. Even if asked (yes I have been asked), I just can't bring myself to hurt my partner.

So in addition to how you like it, can you explain why you like it that way?

I'll go first. I'm a soft and gentle lover. I like to take my time, relish in the moments, and assimilate this amazing person, who has chosen to let me into her most private places, and I don't just mean the physical aspects. Why? I think it's because I live my life on the knife's edge between life and death. My life is literally an action film missing the background music. So I really enjoy being able to let my guard down and live in the moments of physical pleasures with my person.

ground rules I shouldn't have to say this. But please keep your comments respectful and in consideration of other people's feelings that are different from your own.

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ScienceBiker 8 May 6
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I love to explore< try new things but not pain__for me it"s communicating and sharing

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The pain during sex thing, and rape fantasies, I believe, are borne of internalised misogyny and the conditioning we've received via religion which conflates sex with dirtiness.

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I’m curious what you mean by “hurt them.”

Are you saying the regular ol’ vanilla spank or firmly holding the head by a fist of hair close to the scalp low at the back of the head is hurting them?

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