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While the detested woman in the article used religion as a reason to starve or beat Satan out of her children, the real reason is that she is just unhealthily crazy. She would have been an abuser even if she had not been "religious."

And I say "unhealthily" crazy because crazy people do not all abuse their kids.

I am not defending her, but ignoring mental health issues is the path to "hell."

The first instance of killing one's children is very likely found in Euripides' play Medea. Medea killed her sons out of rage for Jason dumping her for another woman. However, she claimed that she killed them because she feared the new wife would abuse them. While the play is based on myth and both play/myth are fiction, myths are sometimes based on real instances. Also, art imitates life.

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Gwen_Wanderer 5 Mar 23
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The Catholic Church frowns upon self-crucifixion as a form of devotion: "Penitential practices leading to self-crucifixion with nails are not to be encouraged."[159] Despite this, the practice persists in the Philippines, where some Catholics are voluntarily, non-lethally crucified for a limited time on Good Friday to imitate the sufferings of Christ.

Do Flagellants still exist?

The specific group from the Middle Ages has largely disappeared. However, there are still some remaining communities today that practice self-flagellation as part of their religious devotion. These groups are typically part of Catholic or Orthodox Christian traditions.

Opus Dei:

"Mortification [is] the voluntary offering up of discomfort or pain to God; this includes fasting, or in some circumstances self-inflicted pain such as self-flagellation. Mortification has a long history in many world religions, including the Catholic Church. It has been endorsed by Popes as a way of following Christ, who died in a bloody crucifixion and who gave this advice: ‘let him deny himself, take up his cross daily and follow me’ (Lk 9:23). Supporters say that opposition to mortification is rooted in having lost (1) the ‘sense of the enormity of sin’ or offense against God, and the consequent penance, both interior and exterior, (2) the notions of ‘wounded human nature’ and of concupiscence or inclination to sin, and thus the need for ‘spiritual battle’, and (3) a spirit of sacrifice for love and ‘supernatural ends’, and not only for physical enhancement. Critics claim that such practices that inflict pain are counterproductive given modern advances. As a spirituality for ordinary people, Opus Dei focuses on performing sacrifices pertaining to normal duties and to its emphasis on charity and cheerfulness. Additionally, Opus Dei celibate members practise "corporal mortifications" such as sleeping without a pillow or sleeping on the floor, fasting or remaining silent for certain hours during the day." - Wikipedia

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Religious abuse

Religious abuse is abuse administered through religion, including harassment or humiliation that may result in psychological trauma. Religious abuse may also include the misuse of religion for selfish, secular, or ideological ends, such as the abuse of a clerical position.

Religious abuse can be perpetuated by religious leaders or other members of a religious community, and it can happen in any religion or faith. Some examples of religious abuse include using religious teachings to justify abuse, enforcing strict religious rules and practices that are harmful, shaming or ostracizing individuals who do not conform to religious norms, using religious authority to manipulate or control others, and denying access to medical care or other basic needs in the name of religion.

Religious abuse can have serious and long-lasting effects on individuals and communities, including trauma, emotional distress, loss of faith, and even physical harm. It is important for individuals and religious communities to be aware of the signs of religious abuse and to take steps to prevent it from happening.

Psychological abuse

One specific meaning of the term religious abuse refers to psychological manipulation and harm inflicted on a person by using the teachings of their religion. This is perpetrated by members of the same or similar faith that includes the use of a position of authority within the religion.
It is most often directed at children and emotionally vulnerable adults, and the motivations behind such abuse vary, and can be either well-intentioned or malicious.

[en.m.wikipedia.org].

Be that as it may, mental aberrations exist outside of churches.

@Gwen_Wanderer Of course, however, religion is a great attractant because any belief can be justified in their mind.

@nogod4me people outside of religion can do the same. For instance, I have heard atheists who claim that aliens built the pyramids. They justify their beliefs on pseudo science. To them, however, their opinions are not "beliefs," but facts. Long ago, I used a chat program where an atheist insisted that the gods of Sumer/Babylon were aliens who came to earth every few thousand years when their planet rotated close to Earth. He ridiculed anyone who disagreed with him.

@Gwen_Wanderer Not all believers are religious, that is why Eric Hoffer, the author of The True Believer, called them "fanatics ".
Racists are believers, there are also political believers, believers do not care about facts or reality, that is what makes them a problem. What causes religion to be more of a problem is the defense, respect, reverence, and undo deference given to it that it does not deserve. Snake-handlers, flat-earthers, etc., should be shunned, not tolerated. Just as we should shun racists and the Trump cult.

@nogod4me "religious" vs "believer" is a matter of semantics in this case. The person in point is Christian. I shun most people, but they have the right to believe what they want: it becomes a problem when the foist it on unbelievers or cause bodily harm to their families or anyone.

However, your point supports my points--it is the believing, regardless of whether it is in a god or a cause, that is the problem. The problem is also mental illness in some cases. No one pays attention to the criminally insane, even when there are signs, until they lose all restraint.

@Gwen_Wanderer Yes, not all believers are insane, however, most insane people believe insane things. Religion just gives them a support system and a hideout.

@nogod4me I agree, but the issue lies within the person, not the religion. I think I noted earlier that my maternal side of the family seems to have hereditary emotional issues ranging from bipolarism to clinical depression. However, my aunt was just outright crazy. Both she and my mother would get mad at relatives and cut them out of pictures or burn pictures. My aunt burned some pics one day and when she washed her hands afterwards, she filled the sink with water and behold! The pics, totally restored, were at the bottom of the sink. They rose to the surface and then went back to the bottom. This was repeated until she let the water our of the sink. She was 100% convinced that this happened. She did not relate it to her Xtian beliefs.

She was crazy.

She also said that the pictures of loved one "talked" to her, and she meant literally talked to her. This was also not related to religion. Had they all been dead, it might have been related, but most of them were alive.

@Gwen_Wanderer I was raised on a farm. We bred and raised animals for food, so I learned about sex and death very early, it is a part of life. My parents never lied to me about it. When we visited an area in another state that wasn't farm country, I overheard some kids my age talking nonsense about how babies arrived. I actually thought that they were insane. People can handicap their children with lies.

I once saw a child sobbing in utter grief. I later found out that someone had told her that Santa didn't exist. It was if she had lost an actual loved one. Some may say, "how awful that they told her the truth about Santa." I say, "how awful someone lied to her in the first place."

Parents can make their children victims in this world or they can tell them the truth and give them an advantage.

@nogod4me and again, I agree. I did not tell my sons that Santa existed not because it was a lie, but because the church I attended at the time did not approve of Santa. I told my sons that if they wanted to pretend Santa existed, that was fine.

However, my oldest son told his friend that Santa was not real and her parents were very upset. The mother told me that they told the girl that Santa was "like god" and that's how he was able to give presents to all kids. I was abhorred as an Xtian as it made Santa into a god, but actually, he is a god--he lives forever (apparently) and has magical powers. If I were the girl, when I found out that Santa didn't exist, it would make me reconsider if god did.

And these people were not religious--they believed in god--or so it seems--but did not attend church or show outward signs of being believers.

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No I don't really agree. While it is true that sick people will do bad things, religion or not. It is also true, that the society and culture within which people live, can go a long way towards mitigating, or making worse, those bad things.

Religion can and does normalize many ideas and attitudes, which would be recognized as extreme, both by the people holding them and by their social peers, if it were not for that normalizing effect. Religion does promote narcissism in individuals and collectively, for its own profit, and narcissism is at the base of much mental illness. Moreover, religious communities in their eagerness to keep and protect members, will often close in around them and prevent them receiving real help when needed, and insulate them from the moderating effects of the wider society.

It used to be said that. "It takes a village to raise a child." But it also takes a community to abuse one. The mental illness of an individual, is the whole of societies responsibility to some degree, and the responsibility of the section of society which is closest to that individual, most of all. We can not pass by on the guilt of their society just by blaming the illness of the parent, and those parts of our culture which did most to create the situation, where that abuse took place, have the greatest guilt. Even if they did no more than promote respect for works of fiction, such as the Bible where extreme and violent behaviour is glorified.

As was said, in a less sexually woke time. "No man is an island." But that is not just a socialist dream of unity, it is also a literal statement about how the world works in practice. And if an island is sinking beneath the waves, then you correctly look to the tides and currents of its immediate archipelago first.

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Once again we have incontrovertible proof that religion is in fact a mental illness...

Religion at its root is not the cause: it is the people who interpret the religion.

@Gwen_Wanderer Religious people especially Christians have been known to carry children around in suitcases believing they would come back to life, cut off the heads of non-Christians "to save them" Another believing a preacher who told them the end was coming a few years back slit the throats of her children after wrapping them up in carpet so they couldn't struggle.... Look at Trump's supporters and the Catholic church...

@Lizard_of_Ahaz and what excuses do non-religious people give for committing the same types of acts?

@Gwen_Wanderer Name three....

@Lizard_of_Ahaz Charles Rothenberg, Hitler, and my neighbor in California who used to torture his stepchildren. Also, the relative of a family friend who put rubber bands around the penis of her young son to keep him from wetting the bed. John Wayne Gacy. Ed Gein.

@Gwen_Wanderer
Charles Rothenberg, born again Christian
Hitler, Catholic
John Wayne Gacy, also Catholic if memory serves
Ed Gein, Lutheran
I have no data on the relative of your family friend or your neighbor in California... Be aware it is common for the religious to claim their murderous coreligionists are "not Christian" or not religious often accusing them of being atheists after they are convicted of or committing crimes... This is the source of excuses of Christians that "they committed the crimes while atheists but converted while in jail or prison" bullshit even with extensive evidence that it is untrue...

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And thus we have a modified repeat of the Turpin case in the abuse of children: [en.wikipedia.org]

The children having been "saved", were then abused by the system that was supposed to be their heroes. Disgustingly shameful!

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I would have killed him not my children, but that's me and my craziness!

No, not crazy. Protective. 🙂

@Betty Thank you for understanding my craziness! 😘

I am sure that Medea would have killed Jason if she could have done so!

@Gwen_Wanderer Yup!

@michelle666gar What you call crazy, I call normal. 🙂

@Betty 🤗🤗🤗🥰🥰

@Betty ((Hugs))

@anglophone Right back at you. 🤗

@michelle666gar Jason sailed away, and in some versions of the story, she threw the children of a cliff, in sight of his ship, so that he could see.

@Fernapple Some men don't care, they can have more children. Some men care, did it anger and sadden him when she murdered their children? She should have just loved her children and let him go!

@Fernapple Religion causes more harm than good and most of the stories in the Bible are filled with genocide and murder, if these so called religious people actually read it would see all the fallacies and hatred, but then again they're too stupid and kept stupid on purpose.

@michelle666gar Yes indeed.

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A person predisposed to violent behaviour (what ever the root cause) will find a way to justify their behaviour and expect it to be accepted as reasonable.

"Unhealthily crazy" is a good label to use is such instances.
Many myths have a kernel of truth that is built up on.

Betty Level 8 Mar 23, 2024

Exactly.

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Well religion most likely drove her crazy, so I’m still blaming it on that…..😇

I was exposed to religion from birth. Millions and millions of other people were and are exposed to religion since birth. Some, like me, leave it, but others go from birth to death and remain religious. I did not become a homicidal person who committed infanticide nor do millions of others do so.

Genetics and environment can both contribute to emotional illness. My maternal side of the family have varying degrees of craziness. My aunt saw "things" that weren't there, but she was a danger to herself and not others. My mother was bi-polar and emotionally lashed out at relatives--including me--but she never physically harmed anyone. She did, however, pray for my father to die.

It was not religion that makes or made my family crazy.

@Gwen_Wanderer It was a joke…..I’m sure you’ve been exposed to humor too at some point…..🤷🏻♂️

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