A life lesson which my marriage has drilled into me:
People react and respond to what they think you said, not what you think you said. Although it couldn't be any other way, it's important to remember this.
We all have our own perception, influenced by our education and experience. We can change our perception when we have new experience or education.
I like to think I’m better at listening than that, and, at the moment, my partner is quite good at hearing me too. Long may it continue!
True, But Sometimes it can be the opposite!
Called "the Curse of Knowledge" ; When you assume others know what you know and all have the same understanding. Which leading to unclear communication.
There are usually signs of a misunderstanding.
@Betty Well, I mean in general, communication is somehow complicated and is kind of an art/skill.
There's a bunch of well know Mind Traps and issues, which can explain most of cases.
Personally, with failed stories, I'd start with my self and check all, especially "the Self Serving Bias".
a problem in long-term relationships never suddenly appears in one day.
That is Exactly why I feel free to give advice, I Know you are only going to hear what you want to hear...every time!
Then when you f*ck up, I can happily say I told you so...Such a win-win for me......