Does anyone else feel like they are destined to fail at relationships? I'm 43 years old and I've only been in one LTR. That man ended up being a verbally and emotionally abusive narcissist, so obviously I have issues when it comes to choosing men and how I've had to heal after spending time with them. My motto has always been: "It's better to be single and happy than married and miserable." I stand by that, but after this length of time, it's getting harder to be the "independent female." Do you believe certain people are just meant to be single? Alone?