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"We fall in love because we long to escape from ourselves with someone as ideal as we are corrupt. I think that there is often a desire to escape oneself in love it's not so much that one wants to be welcomed by another person, it's the one once that kind of forget oneself and immerse oneself in a sort of perfection of another. It's not necessarily always healthy. But we have this enormous capacity to locate perfection elsewhere and this is what the crush is all about. You know the crush - it sounds such a silly thing. But it goes right to the heart of how romantic love is is perceived. You're walking down the street, then you see an attractive stranger and instantly you're overwhelmed by a sense that this person would be perfect. You know that it's a crazy feeling but you detect something in the corner of their mouth, something about their eyes, something about the way they're holding their clothes, something just gives you that certainty and it's absurd. And yet it's gonna weigh the central Sun around which the kind of planets of love as we understand them today revolve. The crush is the instantaneous certainty of the location of the ideal and there's an awful lot of projection and deception."

Alain's insight always brings awe.

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AnandaKhan 6 May 11
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I am fine with myself, and there is no such thing as perfection. Even a perfect diamond has flaws.

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I never thought that my deepest matches were at all perfect. We simply had great fun together and enjoyed each other's company.

Zster Level 8 May 12, 2018

Don't take the word "perfect" in his speech that way. He didn't mean that. He is basically referring to individual "perfection".. kind of like everyone has perfection in their own way as everyone is unique.

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Not necessarily true.
I crush on talent, similar but not the same.

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