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Sex and cheating.

Edit: Apparently lots of people are not happy for me not doing my research properly. Yeah, i should have done a better job. Anyway. My rants are not towards those who have been honest good partners. But I may have showed my misjudgements by using "all" or accusing the whole America. Well, I was in joking and trolling mode.. Fast Internetting.. right!! So, I got some credible source now.

Does Washington Post count as a good source? This 5 myth post points out to other credible links if you want to check.
[washingtonpost.com]

5 myths:

  1. Cheating and affairs are more common among the rich and less common in conservative cultures.

  2. If you really love your partner, you’ll remain faithful.

  3. We generally agree on what counts as cheating.

  4. Your partner won’t stray as long as you keep your sex life exciting.

  5. Most married people don’t cheat. (About 75% married men, 26% married women, 3 in 4 men, and 1 in 4 women)

Divorce statistics

[divorcestatistics.info]

"Six-hundred-twenty never married university students completed an anonymous confidential questionnaire designed to assess their attitude and behavior toward a partner's infidelity. Over two-thirds (69.1%) reported that they would end a relationship with a partner who cheated on them and almost half (45%) said that they had done so. There were no significant differences by sex of respondent, year in school, or age with regard to those who would or had ended a relationship with a cheating partner. However, persons who were in …"

Published in [scholar.google.com]

Well done America. LoL. Men always get the blame but women are no better. Yeah, Democrats cheat more. More education, more cheating. Hell yeah.. clap for that. Single parents..more cheating. Why not? Coz your son or daughter can't sleep because of your banging noise with different strangers different nights. About 1 in 5 in the whole demographics are cheating. The old are not wise, they are cheats.. Yeaaaaahhh.. We looove sex. Should we say fuck relationship, mate? Why are we all faking? Or should I believe in luck? Or should I be a hopeless romantic?

[ifstudies.org]

AnandaKhan 6 May 15
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Thou doth protest too much, methinks....

Often the traits that people attack others for are because they have the same trait and they are ashamed. I'm not saying you are guilty of cheating....but you must fear it.

It's why we can count on another "family values" politician being caught in an affair and another anti-LGBT politician being caught getting his dick sucked by another man (or vice versa).

People are people are people. Why do you feign surprise that less-than-honorable actions cut across all socio-economic, culture, religious/non-religious, educational, age, and political lines? It's not really any surprise. I'd be more surprised if it didn't.

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That you have bought in the the concept of "Cheating" does not portend well for happiness with your future partners.

Quoting statistics is all good. But your derogatory concluding comments are a reflection of how little you understand the statistics, and obviously have done little other research.

You age reflects you lack of experience. You are yet to learn how relationships develop and change. But, it is possible you will learn nothing, given your current "thinking."

Huh! The stats say a lot about people with more experiences. I don't actually know which one of my comments you found so derogatory? Derogatory means "showing a critical or disrespectful attitude." according to the dictionary. Towards whom? Towards the culture of cheating? If you bother to point out, may be I will learn. Good luck, aged and experienced friend.

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The older you get, the more you will see and experience. I would almost guess that by the end of life there will be few people who can admit to not having had a dalliance. I'm using that word rather than cheating because I think a lot of people have the knee jerk reaction to cheating as a harsh word. But may I add that as a woman I am as upset with emotional infidelity.

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Newspapers are not peer reviewed and thus have no credibility for backing up 'research'.

There's a peer reviewed journal I quoted from and I also gave the link. You probably didn't bother to click or read coz you had to refute first.

@AnandaKhan You asked the question! And you got the correct answer on the newspaper. Own it.

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Monogamy is unnatural behavior. Most species do not mate for life.
Humans are the only species that can actively choose one way or the other.
It's unreasonable to expect fidelity simply as a matter of course. If you're doing that
with your partner, you're setting yourself up for disappointment.
Just don't promise to be faithful to a partner. If you know you like to engage with more
than just one person, do not promise that you won't.
If you do make that promise, then keep it. No excuses. If you cheat, you're a lying scumbag who can't be trusted, EVER.
It's not that hard.

I agree. It's not about what you choose to do. It's about the situation that you committed to be monogamous with someone and then couldn't keep your commitment. So, you ought to be criticized if you break someone's trust. Then again, we don't know our own self, probably we don't have full control over lots of things.. but ultimately everybody needs to own their decisions and acts.

@AnandaKhan Self-awareness is key. Too many people are sorely lacking in it. Too many people also follow the herd and go along with social constructs, like monogamy, that they don't even realize they're incapable of maintaining. Unfortunately, they are also the people who end up hurting others because they are completely ignorant of their own nature(s).
Additionally, those who automatically expect fidelity from their partners, without even discussing it, are equally culpable for their upset when/if their partner is unfaithful. No one has the choice of whether to live up to another's expectations, if they don't even know what they are in the first place.

Great answer. Cheating hurts people, don't hurt people. If you will cheat, then become polyamorous or a swinger, which minimizes cheating.

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"Why are we all faking?" What do you mean? It's only 16% who are cheating. That's hardly anything, really. How long do most marriages last? And for the record, I did not cheat on mine.

25% means 1 in 4, 15% means 1 in about every 7, 16% means 1in almost about 6. If that sounds better to you, alright! Then I think I no longer need to emphasize.. Let me tell you what is "only".. 1% which is 1 in 100, or 2 % or even better may be 0.01% which is 1 in 1000. The word "all" is a overstatement of mine. I understand, someone who himself or herself haven't cheated, may feel offended.

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"Having sex with someone other than spouse while married" and "Cheating" are not necessarily the same thing, that's religion talking not actuality. Open marriages, swingers and polyamory to name a few are not cheating as long as everyone agrees to it.
As for the old not being wise considering the question was probably posed as "have you ever" of course their numbers are higher if you assume that they had the same rate of sex outside their marriages as 18-34 year olds in the next 30 years you only add 6% to that number. Add to that the fact that in the older age groups their is more likely to be one partner who is incapable or disinterested in sex and possibly quite happy for their partner to get it elsewhere and I'm surprised the numbers aren't higher.

Kimba Level 7 May 15, 2018

I agree. But I think when researchers conduct these experiments.. they ask directly about "whether they cheated or not" whether they feel remorse. I have lots of polyamorous friends. I am actually for polyamory. I guess lots of readers misunderstood me. They apparently didn't get my banters. Some are accusing me instead for bringing it up.. lol. I wanted to say, if we know that we can't be honest single partners, why don't we admit it and try to pursue what we want.

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Why is there not a category for religious or not?

There should have been. Check the new source.

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Hey, take off points for the Republicans who can't help lying and the 65+ are just bragging so dock them a few points as well. As for the men/women numbers, figure more women would if they weren't stuck at home with the kids while their husband is out "cattin" around.

Haha, good points.

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The average is 16%.... that is not even that much in my opinion lol. I expected it around 40-50%

Alexa Level 5 May 15, 2018

Actually now that I added the new source, your estimate is correct,at least for men.

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Cheating and enjoying what you can't give her are 2 different things ??

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