I once said that my post was for "ladies only," since it was about their opinions of men's behavior on dates, and was immediately attacked by a woman for using the term "ladies."

I kept asking what term was OK to use, and the only one that wasn't nixed was "woman."

This is difficult for me to grasp, since I resemble a normal, cis female but I don't identify with either gender. I don't mind being referred to by either female or male pronouns, but neither gender label seems to have anything to do with my self-identity.

For that reason, I appreciate cis women telling me what gender labels make them feel comfortable, since I can't speak from the perspective of a "fellow woman."

All my life, I felt puzzled that I felt a flash of rage whenever anyone used a female pronoun or label for me. I also choked back anger whenever someone used my female name. After I realized I'm a partial transmale, in 2014, I understood why..my male side was outraged at being mislabeled as a GURL.

I discovered that a common Thai herb, derris scandens, found here in Thailand but also sold on Amazon and eBay, blends my male and female gender modes into a blended androgyne personality that accepts both gender sides, and doesn't take offense at gender labels anymore.

But I still love it when my ex, who came out as nonbinary female in 2016, calls me by my chosen male name and says things like, "How are you doing, man?.
I also call her by female pronouns and her chosen female name, because I understand how it feels.