So, about dating...
This is probably the most difficult and most frustrating. As an awake and aware person in the south, everyone here is pretty devout and close minded to anything outside of a white jesus bible. God fearing or must love the lord or I attend church regularly are in every profile and persons mouth. Followed by extremely judgemental and condescending tone of belittlement cast upon nonbelievers.
What to do? We all have personal taste in appearance and a desired quality of character but a difference in politics and religious beliefs can get ugly.
I know several couples who disagree on religion and especially politics.
My best friend decided he was atheist in elementary school, lol much smarter than I am and until Trump was a big Republican. His wife is a social Catholic and fairly liberal.
Another friend in SLC is very left, I'd almost say rigidly left, but her fiance is an articulate Trump supporter.
I do think it's very hard if one person is devout in their religion. Religious people simply cannot disagree with others rationally bc there's no way to resolve if "God" said it and you must obey.
I let men know that I am atheist right off the bat. Since I broke it off with my last boyfriend, I have no one whom I would even consider dating--not because of their religious affiliations but because I am extremely shallow and have qualities upon which I insist. Religion is not one.
I live in sc and got into a~v e r y ... heated discussion complete with name calling/bad mouthing/etc (against me) about the point of never finding an atheist in a foxhole .... i was one against many who seriously believed that. what a day that was . . .
I feel ya, Alabama was bad. I was on campus, so I could at least find women who weren't devout in their fairy tales.
LOL, oddly I've had better luck in the land of Moron-I, although some just HATE religion and I don't need that negativity. Move to Utah if you can
How about starting a local meet up on Sunday mornings (to avoid trouble with the flock) at a cafe or park maybe. Ensure the cafe owner is OK with your godless ways first. Perhaps you'll draw out like minded people in your community who may think they're alone as you do. Vive la revolution!
I’m seriously considering a relocation to California so that I can meet more like minded women. That said, until that position opens up at my company, online dating sites are my antidote to the issue you stated. While they have their own frustrations, at least you can search for candidates based on their religious preferences. In fact, in addition to meeting avowed atheist on those sites, I’ve actually met many so called ‘spiritual’ women who are more/less atheist. Even in Houston, their are tons of what I call ‘Pre-atheist.’
The first line of my dating profile states clearly that I’m agnostic, that if they want ‘god fearing’, to scroll. Half the first messages I get mention god, god fearing, gods plan, etc.
I don’t answer anyone who clearly hasn’t bothered to read my profile.