I found love on Agnostic.com! We went from "We'll probably never meet because of the distance but it's cool to have online friends" to "Oh my god we absolutely have to be together". We met irl for the first time last weekend but we've been talking on the phone for close to two hours a day for the last couple of months. I feel like I've known her my whole life. She's amazing. I love you @Kelkat!
For the record, I posted this primarily as a shout out to Agnostic.com This wouldn't have happened if not for the wonderful space that was created here. Between work, kids, and you know...talking on the phone two hours a night with the love of my life I've been neglecting this site and the new friends I've made here. I just want the admins and the agnostic community to know that I'm grateful to you all.
So we got married in San Francisco on Friday the 26th with close friends and family present and followed that with a three day road trip, just Kelkat, her cat, and I. The whole thing was a blast. I don't think you find yourself on Agnostic without being pretty entrenched on the skeptical side of the fence. The few people who have directly commented or even implied doubt about us being successful we've both taken the "well shit, that's a perfectly reasonable response" attitude about it. But you see, the naysayers are wrong. At least for now. But if you want to take the ride you have to buy a ticket. Post divorce I hit therapy hard. I had challenged my introverted self to be social. I'd resigned myself to being alone and having friends and my children walk with me on my path to the end but I still put myself out there. What worked for me, besides an incredible amount of luck was self examination and the pursuit of self awareness...and a therapist to sort the useless crap from the useful tools. There's a line from a Shins song that goes something like "It's not that the darkness can't touch our lives I know it will in time. But she's no ordinary valentine." Thanks for all the support and cynicism. This site is fucking great.