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I'm monitoring a vicious FB debate over dress codes in our society. Now I'm old school and a product of my emviroment in many ways, but I view these things from a much more laid back attitude than from what I've been reading. I really don't care to see people's parts hanging out but it's not like I'm going to turn it into an issue. These people are rabidly defending dressing any way you want in any setting and attacking all who call for a more sensible approach.
I guess my question is this: When does common courtesy impinge on personal choice? I mean...do we not all, as a society, learn to compromise on many levels in order to somewhat peacefully co-exist?
Most cities have ordinances on what constitutes as public decency, do they not? In other words, a dress code that promotes at the least, a nominal modesty.
So I'm curious as to what you all think about that. Fire away!

Freespirit64 8 June 3
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I grew up when girls were required to wear skirts or dressed to school, even when snow was on the ground. Shorts were only allowed during the last week or last couple of days of the school year. Personally I don't care what people wear, as they should not care about others. A woman should have as much right to go topless as a man and it should not be an issue

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Dress codes in a school, especially at younger age levels, help to identify pupils. Imagine a school outing, with 30 children and 6 monitors - and no means of telling the pupils apart from the others there. It would be a perfect venue for a kidnap!
Dress codes at work depend on where you are working. If you are in a position where you meet and greet customers/clients then it is imperative you project a good image. If you are in a back room, where you never meets clients, then dress codes are not needed.
In other words - THERE IS NO HARD AND FAST RULE POSSIBLE

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I grew up when high-school students were actively fighting dress codes!(late '60's - early '70's) I'm a bit older now, & some of the fight is on a different level. In my school days it was seldom about 'indecent' clothes, more about hair, style, etc. I can see a business having a particular dress code for numerous reasons, which is why getting your face tattooed or overly pierced is often counter-productive. Living in Phoenix, AZ work attire, even in many offices, is much more relaxed than some other places, mostly due to the summer heat. But relaxed is different from non-existent.

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This has been an argument for as long as there have been dress codes and I say now as I said then, even in highschool: pick your battles. There are better hills to die on than what you can and can't wear to school. ?

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People need to mind their own business, imo. If my sons decide to dress crazy or dye their hair, I would really hate it, inside, but I would keep it to myself and move on with life. Style is harmless. And laws are not always appropriate or just. For example, why can men legally go topless in public but a woman doing so could be fined and/or arrested?

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Are we back in Sunday School again?

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The 'no shirt, no shoes, no service' (shorts are implied) signs of old seems like enough for public appearence.

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The 'no shirt, no shoes, no service' (shorts are implied) signs of old seems like enough for public appearence.

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Let it be.... said john Lennon. You go to the beach and its string bikini. Sex sells! Muscled men, thin women.... commercials are full of beautiful people trying to get your attention. Hot women sell their perfumes. You look good hanging out and you get notice. Its that kind of world in the movies.... its that kind of business in big business... my wife told me... shes quit a lot of jobs at the top because of top dogs coming on to her.

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I'm the same as u . I cannot have everything my way . I have to get along with people of different mind sets religions races walks of life ect. I can't have it my way and I'm at peace with that however there does need to be some type of a mutual agreement with everyone to meet in the middle so as u stated we can all live together in this world . I don't agree with all what I see either but I gotta bend to get along with everyone . So with that said I think so long as people cover there private parts I can't really ask for anything else even if I disagree with what they are wearing or not wearing lol. Good question tho and I'm curious to hear others opinions on this subject

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I am a product of my environment and many times I have to remind myself that kids should be able to wear what they want without it being provocative as well as adults. However there are also many times, especially at my hospital, where I see someone wearing an outfit that makes me physically nauseated but instead of saying anything I just don't look.

I see naked people daily. should clothes be any different? However at the same time, you should care about yourself enough to dress...like you care about yourself. My mum has a 'friend' who always wears dirty clothes and frankly looks homeless. She doesn't care about herself enough to try to look presentable and then wonders no one will hire her.

I would love to dress like I did as a teenager. The face piercings and spiky blue hair and dog collars and mesh shirts and Tripp pants, though, but society looks down on adults that dress like that. Am I any better than those that judge me for my clothing choices when I do the same?

It's a conundrum to me. I don't want to judge others on their clothing, but I want them to care about themselves. Ah it's perplexing

So in the end I just keep my mouth shut and my judgements to myself

@LadyAlyxandrea lol yes. But...I'd sure love to see you with the blue hair. That sounds awesome!

@Freespirit64

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Yeah we've gone over to a notion that anything goes. It really doesn't - not everyone wants to see all that.

I remember when Lycra became a thing? My Mom in a big store asks this tall guy to help her get a trash bin cover from a stack. He turned around and she had no idea where to look. lol

I'd be ok if genitals weren't defined for everyone in public. Sounds reasonable doesn't it?

Lol...well I mean I think so!

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