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Sometimes I find it almost impossible to remain polite and politically correct. It almost hurts to try to understand and accept what people are saying. For example, many spiritual belief systems discriminate against women particularly when they are menstruating. I have heard so many rationalizations for this, especially in aboriginal teachings. "We're not discriminating against women, they're just too powerful when they're bleeding. They shouldn't cook for other people because their power would affect those people. They shouldn't socialize outside their home because their power is too strong and might affect men. They can't participate in Round dances. ... " It's so hard to stay quiet when listening to this sort of nonsense. I just want to stand up and scream BS! I want to ask how can you decry prejudice and discrimination against your people and then perpetuate ideas that are just as pernicious. (I try to see it as reclaiming a stolen heritage, but it still makes me uncomfortable.)

I've even seen Round dance and Pow Wow posters that explicitly tell menstruating women not to attend. I boycott those events although I'm very tempted to attend when I'm on my period because I don't believe anyone checks. (At least, I hope they don't) I also refuse to attend all events where I would have to wear a dress just because I'm a woman.

Sorry for the long rant. The few times I've tried to challenge these ideas (gently) irl, I've been castigated for racial bigotry and white privilege.

There's no such thing as magic! Nothing you say or do will ever change that! (There, I said it bluntly and I fell so much better now.)

pixiedust 8 June 3
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Plato says if you want to save the world do it one person at a time because if you do it publicly you WILL be assassinated!

That is scary true.

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There is an exception here to call out. In a sweat lodge ceremony, the purpose is to commune with the earth mother, creator of life. Women have this power and hence, are traditionally not participants. Men are. The men need to connect. Women already have.

There are sweat lodges for women as well as coed sweat lodges.

@pixiedust These would not be recognized by many Native American traditionalists.

@moNOtheist I was taught that this is the tradition in the Lakota nation.

@pixiedust Yes there are, at least now. In the Lakota nation traditionally this was not so, but things change. I think the original practice recognizes the elevated role women have as creators of life.

@moNOtheist No, they wouldn't, but there happen regularly where I live.

Not all women reproduce these years, either.

@TaraMarshall Very true.

@Mitch07102 Me, too.

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It's always worth it to speak the truth, and in general you will offend somebody. People do not let go of their traditions and prejudicial attitudes easily, and some never ever will. You can accept that reality without accepting the nonsense and discrimination that it protects. You didn't ask for advice, so I offer none. However, in my own life, I have found it to be more effective to pick my battles and not try to change everything all the time, which is what I did when I was younger. I hope the act of composing and publishing your message got some things off of your chest. Hang in there. Come back and rant again if things build up, we'll all listen.

This is a perfect comment. Thank you. I do feel much better now.

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