Looks aside, looks mean diddly squat if there's nothing else, it's probably sense of humour and specifically how they react to mine. If there's no connection or reaction, even a smidgy one, then there's nothing to move on with

personalty

Certain characters of people are acceptable, great, and maybe even MORTALLY NECESSARY in the personal and impersonal domains.

Other characters are a waste of time all-around, and I can only hope to survive an interaction with them, because they mishandle interactions, or are just too messed up to be a sensible way to spend time.

Unfortunately, someone's complete character is not evident until one has come to learn enough about them, and learning about a person doesn't seem to come until they would comply with any curiosity about their past, or whatever else information is necessary.

Initially, I'm usually attracted by a person's sense of fashion. I'm usually attracted to the most outrageous looking person in the room.

Their character.