I guess that I should start off with this, I consider myself to be a Spiritual person, but not religious. I was raised in a Southern Baptist Church. After I got married, had a kid and divorced, I stopped going to church. I started dating someone that was an extreme history buff. After learning more and more about Christianity through hundreds of years, I knew I would never go back to that religion.
Fast forward to last year. I was seeing this guy and I fell in love with him. He was bitter about his ex-wife and last gf. He said he would never love again. But when we were together I could feel the love. Late last year, I fell and fractured my back. I was in the hospital for 3 wks and I wasn't able to see him, he didn't have a car, the ex took it. He lost his job and had to move to the other end of the state to live with his brother. I did get to see him the day he was moving. My daughter and son-in-law drove me to say Goodbye. It was extremely difficult for me and very emotional. I told him, you know I love you. He said he knew.
He had a few rough months after the move. But he is finally on his feet, living on his own. He told me a few months ago that he wished he had taken things further with me when he had the chance. I told him that I am still here.
We are friends on Facebook. His recent posts are covered with God and Jesus. Lord have mercy!!!
Another almost relationship fucked up with religion.
That's why I'm single.... lol
Here are the things that jumped out at me:
Conclusion: you can do better.
You were religious once but someone you loved taught you something that opened your eyes forever. If there’s chemistry and compatibility perhaps you can do the same with a simple honest conversation. It sounds like he’s had some rough luck lately and is just looking for support. It sounds like he wasn’t religious a year ago and maybe he really “found god” or maybe he’s just lost and hoping for “something”...I am not saying you need to save him or convert him, but it sounds like you owe both of you an honest conversation.
That's hard, but I suspect it worked out for the best. I think strong differences in worldviews and values are a ticking time bomb — and it may not seem like such a hurdle early in the relationship when emotions are running hot, but eventually things cool and you have to be compatible on other levels. I can't imagine dating anyone truly religious.