Which are you more concerned about in a relationship: being smothered or being abandoned?
I used to have a cabin on 96 acres in Northern CA. I'd go up for weekends with my dog. A good weekend was when I didn't see another human from Friday night to Sunday night. Introvert, no smothering allowed.
Not that abandonment is good but at least the intent is crystal clear.
I need my time alone for myself. Time for everything.
Smothered. if someone leaves me- it just wasn't right/wasn't meant to be. when someone smothers, it's not right either, but it's that person not accepting it.
Being annoyed beyond my capacity to be civil.