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Happily single—or not?

I know there are plenty of single people in this community, but I’m curious to know how happy everyone is about being single.
For instance I’m happily single, because I treasure my time alone and my freedom. However, I sometimes miss having a partner to share my day with.
What do you like/not like about being single?

RoadGoddess 7 Jan 19

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I love not paying for his necessities. I also love being alone to do what I want. I love no one telling me what to do, say, and what not to wear. I love them not constantly asking what food I am eating at their house, (my food I brought) not having them not me where I'm going (the bathroom!), how much money do I have, etc...

good for you right on!

@jacpod Thanks.

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It's tough to narrow it down but I tend to be a light sleeper and I enjoy going to sleep and waking up whenever I'm rested rather than when someone else is stirring. Sleep is precious 🙂

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Happily single, but would be happy to change my status to “not single”.

Plus side of single life: bathroom is free when I need it, no one eats my leftovers but me, and I don’t have to play by someone else’s rules (ex wife was an über-religious control freak).

Downside: No companion to share life with, no chance of kids until status change, no cuddles, no bill sharing, no chore sharing, no one to cook for

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Being single again has it's ups and downs. I miss the intimacies of married life (it's been years), but since my wife died, I can't seem to bring myself to see other people for that intimacy. I like being alone, but loneliness isn't really a problem. I would have to say that I have mixed feelings about my singleness.

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Being a mix of both intro- and extrovert, I value a certain amount of time to myself. However, I've been unattached since my divorce several years ago, and have only had platonic dates since then. I have been feeling lonely and would like to be in a healthy relationship again soon, but in the meantime I'm working on improving my own life and--this is important--pursuing my individual dreams to improve my own sense of self, until someone special comes along.

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I'm happy single with a robust group of friends and a loving family.

It would take a very special woman for me to add them to my group of established friends. I'd love to meet my book club fitness queen but if not that's cool too.

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Single 2 years and sometimes get lonely of a Sunday afternoon but then it passes and I move on....

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I would say it goes up and down, I was in a relationship for 6 years before I became single and I decided to travel the world. I made a list of the adventures I had and if anyone wants they can read the list below. But I did it as a single woman. I could have seen times where having a partner along would have been nice. But I enjoyed being single for those years. Now that my direction in life has changed that I no longer want to get out and travel but more start building a family, the idea of single is not ideal.

[wanderlustconsumedher.com]

How did you fund all that travel?

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Having only recently become single for the first time in my adult life. I'd have to say, I don't know. I know what I don't know. And am not too proud to admit it. After my 11 year marriage ended, I expected to stay single for a long time. But, that was extremely short lived. Now, post an almost 8 year relationship, I learning. I had some ideas, and vicarious information from friends. But, not the actual experience. It has pros and cons, like anything in life. Towards the end, my exgf would say I should try being single. And that she knew I'd fall flat on my face. It has been 6 months, and I'm still upright. I could see myself staying single. Or, I can see making a deep and meaningful connection with an amazing, strong, independent, confident woman. One that won't ever need me, but wants me in their life. One that knows I am not responsible for their happiness, but enjoys me contributing to it. I won't settle for less than that. And if I enter another relationship, it will be my last.

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Mostly content about being single. But a part of me yearns for intimate connection with another and so I'm thinking that means I miss that. I like female company and I'm working on developing friendships.

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I'm happily single and have spent most of my life unattached, I'm comfortable with my solitude and independence, but I think life can be more interesting and fulfilling in a relationship. I miss the intimacy and company but most of all an intellectual connection and shared values, which are the hardest to find.

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Happy and free to be happy.

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I'm often alone but never lonely.

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I think being single would be better than unhappily married.
I'd like to think I could have friends for hanging out and even physical friendship.

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I miss having someone to do things with.
To teach me stuff, to learn my stuff.
I miss having someone to pamper.
To take care of me, and I to pamper them.

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I don't miss drama, fights, and misunderstandings, unfulfilled expectations. I miss having someone a partner in crime and a confidant. I hate sleeping alone. I hate cooking for one and eating out alone. I refuse to go to the movie theater solo so I miss a lot of movies

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A lot of you have said you're happy being single. does that really mean you've simply embraced it as a life-style? happier single than with a companion who cares for and about you? closing your heart to possibilities? is there room in your life for dating while giving each other a lot of space? without living together?

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Both, actually. I suddenly found myself single seven years ago at the death of my wife, so this situation was not my choice. However, over that seven years, I have not only become accustomed to the freedom my single status affords, but I've come to embrace it. Sure, I wouldn't mind a traveling buddy for my road trips, and getting laid occasionally might be nice, but I wonder if it's worth giving up the freedom. The hole in my life has a specific shape to it, it seems.

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I’m not a fan. I was married for 5 years, and it was, at least for me, a good marriage. We talked almost every day, and not just about how our day was, but about every aspect of life, every thought we had. We always talked out our issues and made sure to let the other person know how special they were to us. Looking back, I might have idealized it all, and in reality, we were holding each other back. She never got to live a certain life because she was a Christian (we both were before our marriage, but we talked each other out of it), and I can now live healthy, waste as little as is feasible for me, and try to make the biggest impact I can on humanity in improving well-being through a lot of scheduling and hard, mostly unpaid, work. And when I accomplish a goal related to my plans, in those moments, it’s worth it. Most people aren’t about this life, so single is the default position for me. Still, I would trade it for what I had before, and I know because I almost did, but luckily (or not) the decision wasn’t in my hands.

But I see some relationships, and I’m like “goddamn, being single isn’t THAT bad.”

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I can look after myself fine but find the single life wearisome and joyless. It is not mainly about not having anybody to fall back on (though as all my relatives except my son are long dead that is a nuisance), it is more about not having anyone to share the good bits with. Cooking a fantastic meal when you don't get to share it with good company is just not the same, and as I told a psychologist once "Sex is much better with someone else in the room." (poor woman almost had a heart attack.)

Kimba Level 7 Jan 20, 2018
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Absolutely love being single. I can walk or run to the beat of my own drum. Thou I am not opposed to another relationship at all just not actively pursuing it. If it happens awesome!

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im the same as you. I like being able to do what I want when I want in my own space and I love the lack of arguments and pointless misunderstandings. I miss conversations, cuddles, fucking, making love going out for a meal or to go for a day out and the closeness. and understanding. I always got on best with the opposite sex when they were just my friends or lived in their own house. I would ideally want a very good friend with benefits which doesn't mean just sex by a long way.

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Yes and no

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I make what I can from life, I wouldn't say I am happy that I am single, and feel I would be closer to happiness if I was in a good relationship. I am not unhappy with my life. I really enjoy intimacy with a lady, more so in a relationship. I do more when I have someone to do things with.

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About the same really. Generally quite a happy person single or otherwise. I sometimes miss being able to share things but there are plenty of advantages to being onyour own.

These days I compromise by keeping my partner locked up in a cupboard.... 🙂 just kidding, honest!

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