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What is the hardest question you’ve ever answered?

AMGT 8 Sep 6

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Without question, it was when my 2nd wife asked me permission to quit fighting for her life. We both knew she was exhausted and had no quality of life left and no hope of being made comfortable, much less well. She wanted my permission to die, and wanted me to let go. But it felt like I was betraying her, even apart from my selfish desire not to see her die, and even understanding her suffering. Somehow I found the strength to release her, but that is hands down the hardest question I've ever been asked.

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Do you still love me ? - she asked.
It was hard , but I did not lie .

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When it was time to put my Raini girl down & the Vet said 'are you sure'? My mind screamed - F*** no! But my heart wouldnt let her suffer any longer just because I wanted her with me forever.

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It's too painful to share. I cannot type it.

@AMGT I'm afraid you do. Thank you. ♡

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"Are you and mom ever going to get back together?" So much easier to tell everybody else, "Oh hell no!"

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Intellectually? Probably the last of the final year practical questions in petrology, where they give you a bunch of hand samples, thin section microscope slides and a geological cross section and ask you to identify the rock types, minerals and their percentages and a summary of the geological history behind them. I'd run short of time and had about 10 minutes to do 30 minutes work.
Emotionally? Today my son asked me why he didn't have many friends. He's just started high school, has ADHD with some ASD traits and can be somewhat... intense. Hate to see him sad.

I totally understand about your son. My son is 28 now, but there were some rocky years as he was growing up. His father and I divorced when he was 4 and I was the only constant in his life. I married 2 more times and ended both of those terrible marriages largely because they didn't just not love my boy... they were actively mean to him. My son hated being different. He is super smart and funny but can still be very prickly. He has friends, now, and they understand his volatile moods. He has had girlfriends, but no one special and I hope someday he will find a girl who can see through the armor. All we can do is love them hard and be there when they need to talk. You can't fix it for them, much as you want to. Good luck. Know that you are not alone!

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It appears it's going to be this one because there are hundreds of thousands of questions I've had to answer throughout my life and after arriving at this point, I don't remember which was which. What to do? What to do?

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Never having had children, l was never faced with the really tough questions most of you have had to answer. I suppose the toughest was why l wanted out of a relationship. It has also been the most difficult response l have had to listen to when l have asked that same question. Not that tough compared to most, l guess.

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What would you die for?

JimG Level 8 Sep 6, 2018
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Not sure, but I still haven't come up with an answer for the hardest question I've been asked.

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Boxers or briefs? Thank Satan for boxer-briefs so I never have to choose.

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Answering honestly when my son asked where his cat was when the cat had died the night before.

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Do you take this woman... etc etc etc. Lol

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Oi.. this one is painful.... tries to find a flippant answer instead ... comes up short

Where's @Duke when you need him?

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I can honestly think of two that may not be the absolute hardest but to the best of my memory they’re still up at the top haha.

  1. From my younger sister after the family dog died “I don’t think I can handle this...it’s like...the first actual death I’ve ever really had to deal with. How do you get over this stuff?”
    My response (after a consoling hug) “it happens so much you eventually just get used it...”
  2. One of my students asked me why electron shell concepts with atoms don’t seem to make any sense, especially with exceptions to almost every rule. “Why does it do that? How am I supposed to understand how it does that?”
    My response “you aren’t expected to understand it...ultimately nobody else really does either. You just use the info you’re assuming scientists aren’t lying about. Sometimes stuff just is what it is...”

I always think of Richard Feynman when asked "why?" Here is a link to a video to see how he thought about some "why" questions:

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"do you still love me?"

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When little kids ask about war.

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