It seems you are dealing with a limited sample size. I'm not sure that the region of the country, or world for that matter, that you come from affects how successful your relationships are. It may impact how long people stay together, but that in and of itself is not necessarily a sign of a successful relationship. Having said that, I've never had a long term relationship with anyone from the same part of the country as I am. They all came from different regions.

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It is not really a region thing as far as racism goes.

At least not anymore.

I see more racism when I go back up north (Ohio/PA/WV) than I do down here in the Georgia/SC I have lived in and loved since 1985. The bulk, heavy side of my life.

And maybe because I live in a coastal area now with tourism and everything.

However.

I also have lived inland.

Where the onions grow Where the peaches grow.

I have seen Hispanic men physically locked in a cage in the back of a pickup truck.

I think lots of it is more socioeconomic related than regional. The breakups you reference were all partly based on money and financial disparity.

If people haven't traveled or been to college maybe they stay mired in whatever the cultural ideology was in the family / town / region of origin. Many people grow up in the foster system or are abused and so on. I don't think you can make generalizations about relationships based on region.

My most satisfying and long relationships are with people who are somewhat like me, smart, well-educated, reasonably well traveled, in a similar ballpark fiscally, and intellectually curious. I know people from elementary school and from all over but my closest friends all live around Seattle, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Vancouver, and Victoria.

You couldn't pay me enough to live in the South. But if it makes you feel better, I know lots of people in crappy relationships in the West.

Good luck! I'm sure you can find what you want, even in the South.

The South is a huge and diverse region of over 120 million people, more than the Northeast and Midwest combined. Every conceivable personality type, every political and religious opinion is present, along with every level of education and economic achievement.

You can find whatever you are looking for in the South.

The real correlation is whether your friends are compatible with you or not. The odds of good compatibility are probably correlated with subculture they come out of, which is primarily ideological and secondarily regional.

Not everyone who enters our lives is meant to remain in our lives.
I don't think it has anything to do with where anyone lives.

I have extremely close friends (20 years, or more) who live in different parts of the country. I lived in Gainesville for nearly 30 years, and my best friend is still there.
Another of my best friends and I met in G'ville, 25 years ago. I'm in Georgia and he's in California. I lived in Maine for 8 years and have maintained a number of the friendships I cultivated while living there.

Building and maintaining friendships has fuckall to do with where you are, and everything to do with WHO you are, who you invite into your life, and just how
much effort everyone is interested in putting into the relationship.

I lived in Georgia for more than a decade and found that for the most part, whether relationships, attractions, or just friendships, I was more often drawn to people who came from other regions of the country.